How much lodge should I give my mum?

PlymouthMaid

What you are paying sounds more than fair to me as it is more than 1/4 of your wages. This should hopefully allow you to save some too for your future. I wouldn't get involved in actually paying the mortgage but Mum will use your contribution generally to pay housing costs. FWIW I paid my Mum £50 a month when I was your age and I earned about £200 a month.

happycomper22

what you are paying at the minute seems very fair, in fact its probably more than most in your situation would be paying. On the same hand it is also saving you money as you would be paying a hell of a lot more if you had your own house with rent bills etc. Your mum is very lucky to have a sensible daughter willing to pay her way.

schwam66

daniellaoxox wrote: »

I'm 21 and still live at home with my mum. I earn just over £1000 per month. I buy all of the food and also the dog food which all comes to around £200 per month. I was thinking of giving her about £150 per month - is this fair??

not a damn thing....your already doing way more than you should have to or is expected of you...when your parents had kids they had to anticipate you were going to be there awhile, surely they didnt think 'its ok when she 18 she will be gone' anyone that says you should be paying anything is a fool and doesnt care about their kids....1/3 your wage on food and paying 'rent' is pathetic....speak to your mom surely she will agree.....

all the best.

Lily-Rose_3

Oh Lord, here we go again.

schwam66

mighty_hammers wrote: »

Does your mum work? Is there rent / etc to pay. You should be asking your mum what she deems fair. My son worked for 2 yrs part- time while at college, and I have only just started taking money off him, about 12% of his take home, just about covers the petrol i use to ferry him about, but he is using his saving to pay for driving lessons, clothes etc.

crazy....i cant wait till my kids need me take them places, for me its part of being a parent, i certainly wouldnt be expecting money to help them out.....

Lily-Rose_3

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

schwam66

always surprised when i see these posts and all the ppl that say you should charge your kids this and that....do you ppl have kids and think 'only have to care for them till their 18 then they will pay' genuinely curious what some of you are thinking, i understand everyones situations are different and yes things can change, but dont you think about these kinds of things when you have children? i totally understand if your kids are scum of the earth and leaching off you but surely that wouldnt be an issue for anyone here so why not let them save their money and help them get on the property ladder or higher education with the money they would give you?? surely your not that hard up for an extra £100 a month?

Sally_A

I'm unsure why scwam66 has had such a negative response.


Everyone seems to want a baby/ies (awwww! aren't they cute), but truthfully a wage earning older child (say 15yrs+) then buys their own stuff.


Household outgoings are not that much different if you have 2 adults (ie parents) plus adult kids.


I only had the one, as that way I could ensure I could afford her, besides pregnancy and childbirth weren't my cup of tea.


Thankfully my child has a well paying job, and she is saving for a place of her own (aged 23, but she has been saving for this since 20). She buys a few things for the house, buys her own clothes, toiletries etc, and I recently paid £14+ for a prescription, without even thinking about getting the money back.


We don't get funny about money, if I was really up !!!! creek and needed a £1000 loan, she would lend me, and vice versa.


If I didn't like her lifestyle, yes maybe I would ask for housekeeping, but would probably save the bulk of it for her.

happycomper22

I do have a child and yes when he has grown up and working I definitely will expect him to pay his way. That doesn't make me a fool, in fact I will be doing it because I DO care about him!!
In my mind if finances allow it, when the time comes I will probably save any money he gives me in a account that he can access when he is looking to move out of home. That's the dream - but in reality I may not be able to afford it. I may actually have to use the money he gives me to help support the household who knows.
How many kids when they get their first job think oh I should save some wages towards getting on the property ladder? very few I suspect. I paid "keep" from the moment I started working. It was a nominal amount, but it taught me that the wages weren't all "mine".

elsien

schwam66 wrote: »

always surprised when i see these posts and all the ppl that say you should charge your kids this and that....do you ppl have kids and think 'only have to care for them till their 18 then they will pay' genuinely curious what some of you are thinking?

It's more about teaching people to live in the real world. I paid my mum board because (aside from the fact she wanted me to live at home) it felt like I was taking her for a ride if I didn't, and because it also taught me to manage my money better instead of getting into huge amounts of debt because I'd never learned to budget when I did finally get my own place.