How much lodge should I give my mum?

PlymouthMaid

Not having a contribution towards household costs from adult working 'children' (unless they are amazing grounded) gives them a false idea of living costs and disposable income and often encourages them to treat the house and their parents as a hotel.

If parents can afford to save the dosh for their children I am sure that is lovely but some of us actually do not earn enough to manage without a contribution as we will have lost the little help we received from tax credits, child benefit and any money from the non resident parent whilst they were 'dependent. The council tax will also have gone up 25%.

Many working children are more than happy to pay towards their housing and food and it is doubtless a source of pride to them that they are adults who do not need to be treated like children by their parents.

krlyr

From a child who was charged keep, I certainly appreciated the budgeting skills it gave me. Not to mention it was essential for my mum to keep us all in the family home - she could have kept us without keep, had she downsized and cut costs when my dad left, but a bit of keep from us kids allowed us all the stability and familiarity of growing up in our (very lovely!) home.

It's very easy to say that if you choose to have a child, you should be able to support them until they move out - but 18 years+ is a long time. My mum had all of us when in a happy marriage - that changed over time and being able to afford 4 of us as a single mum (who hadn't worked full time - my dad's choice) was a different financial situation altogether.

jaylee3

Deleted. Forget it! Decided not to feed!