DS violent when staying with non resident mother

lulu_92

Why are people blaming OP?

whodathunkit

Does the start of this behaviour coincide in any way with the arrival of her new partner?

thatgirlsam

He's angry. That's why he he's lashing out. Give him the chance to express his emotions.. in words not actions to you. Try to be totally non - judgemental and open and give him the chance to speak how he feels. He may not have the words yet though.. He just needs to feel safe

nai87_2

unfortunately, it is common.

i work in several different schools as a TA for the deaf in mainstream schools and i do find some children do react this way. What is really good about schools are you can have a word with the teachers and their class TAs about the situation. they will have resources/books and 1:1 talk time.

Sometimes children find talking to their teachers/TAs comforting/more honest than talking to boring old parents and the teachers will pair the children up with others who are going through the same thing so they can realise they are not alone.

by the way... step brother... its half brother. sorry to be so picky. I'm 18 years older than my half brother and i hear step brother all the time. grinds my gears

**Patty**

lincsdan86 wrote: »

more often then not if we try to steer the conversation towards what happens at mummys he doesn't respond and/or changes the conversation.

Please, please don't do this.

Whatever happens or what he does when he is with mummy should stay at Mummy's house.

Don't quiz him about it. He's clearly in turmoil at it is.