upset Mummy,leaving toddler at daycare

jopsey

Thanks to everybody for there views and advice :T ,sometimes I really do wonder what I would do with out you fantastic bunch to offload my concerns on .

sorry if I ramble on too much but I invited a "mum" around today(after yet another cancelled surestart club :eek: )
with her daughter who DS has known from newborn and loves dearly ,
he displayed totally out of character behaviour towards her ,almost like bulling ,telling her "no stay there " when she tried to get out of his push along car and pushed her back in, and other things that is generally not in his nature , don't get me wrong he can have a little squabble over a toy maybe with friends of his own age , but never has he been like this with "baby Hannah"

My friend and I were both shocked ,Friend has worked in childcare for many years and is a CM now I explained what had been happening and she said maybe there is a child who is displaying/or displayed this type of behaviour towards him.

I did ask him was the children nice in school ,he said in one breath that a boy had pinched and pushed him and he was scared,then in another breath they were nice and shared toys :cool: typical 2 year old response really .

In reply to some questions sorry can't remember who mentioned what

I can't really afford to send him more than 2 sessions a week as it cost's £38 for 2 afternoon sessions:mad: but I have changed 1 to a morning to see how it goes.

I don't think I display any outward signs of worry ,and am quite up beat about him going nursery.

The staff have been great and honest ( an old friend is the manager ),I can ring them anytime,told me I can stay with him as long as I want (but he seems worse wont leave my side at all ),I can stay in an adjoining parents room to listen ect.

when I come to pick him up he is usually playing ,but soon a he see's me he cling's to me and gets upset.

What I don't understand is the first two weeks he loved it and the first session I left him at 1pm and went to pick him up at 5pm and he told me to "come back for me later, please" when I went to take him home .


To be honest I think I will give his notice in this week (4 weeks),as from the week after next we are away for 3 weeks ,which I am sure will be even more unsettling .

It's just that fine line of deciding is he just playing me up or genuinely upset and scared ,and deep down would hate it to be the latter .

Thanks again everybody .