Reasonable grounds for a divorce

BrassicWoman

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PasturesNew

MarcusAurelius wrote: »

What would you think of an answer "I make much less than you so I'm not going to share and I'm going to spend what I earn on myself, thus you don't have to be giving me my pocket money"?

Your questions aren't really clear.

Just do the soddin' divorce. You're clearly incompatible.

Alikay

MarcusAurelius wrote: »

What would you think of an answer "I make much less than you so I'm not going to share and I'm going to spend what I earn on myself, thus you don't have to be giving me my pocket money"?

Seems a tad bolshie coming from someone you've promised to love, cherish and share everything with, but experience has shown me that not everyone has the same expectations of marriage as me

Primrose

You don't come across as very clearly, but if the two of you weren't able to agree on even basic issues like this before you got married, perhaps neither of you put sufficient thought into what married life was going to be like between you.
You may not be an aggressive person but actually the tone of your post was worded rather aggressively. Sit down with your other half and try to agree how you handle your finances. If you're both possessive about your respective incomes the fairest way is to split all expenditure in the same ratios as your salaries.

monty-doggy

Grounds of unreasonable behaviour.
What's unreasonable to one person, may not be to another, which is why you can pretty much use anything you wish as unreasonable, including not contributing to the housekeeping.
Which by the way I agree, regardless of how much you earn you should pay your own way, unless you want to be a complete free loader, in which case the divorce is inevitable!

Georgiegirl256

Oh. It's you again. :cool:

stir_crazy

MarcusAurelius wrote: »

What would you think of an answer "I make much less than you so I'm not going to share and I'm going to spend what I earn on myself, thus you don't have to be giving me my pocket money"?

That to me would be very trying and I suppose if there was a build up of scenarios like that then it would become unreasonable behaviour. But then I would never have married DH in the first place if he was like that. Clearly from your other OPs you're not a good couple together - or maybe now you're picking at each other over small things and becoming petty. Perhaps its actually time to do something about it.

Hope I didn't pollute your thread too much with my opinion.