Fair share?

MarcusAurelius

Hi all,

How common is it for a working partner not to be contributing their salary to the shared pot, i.e. mortgage, bills, holidays?

If not, how much of a problem is it for a relationship?

paulineb_2

Would that be your partner you are talking about?

Or someone else's?

tea_lover

Is this the same relationship where you have nothing in common but are thinking of having children for something to talk about?

victory

tea_lover wrote: »

Is this the same relationship where you have nothing in common but are thinking of having children for something to talk about?

Wow, that can't be right, can it?:eek:

victory

Oh I see the other thread now

Kayalana99

I'd say it's not common but it happens, a guy at OH's work is like this he pays for everything and his wife spends all her money on herself (whilst not contributing )

It's not a problem for them as he loves her and doesn't care...and she walks all over him.

I would of thought people in this situations would either pay their share or it wouldn't be a problem - if it was a problem then they wouldn't be doing it that way ? Does that make sense!!

MarcusAurelius

paulineb wrote: »

Would that be your partner you are talking about?

Or someone else's?

It's the sane one. Look, you can say things, but this is the only relationship that I have and have had for years.

So to me conclusions are not as obvious as to you. There's history with us two, and hence don't really have the balls to end it, and as said before willing to fight for it. Want to know where to start. .

maricelabflagg

Both should contribute their salary.

CH27

MarcusAurelius wrote: »

It's the sane one. Look, you can say things, but this is the only relationship that I have and have had for years.

So to me conclusions are not as obvious as to you. There's history with us two, and hence don't really have the balls to end it, and as said before willing to fight for it. Want to know where to start. .

It takes two to want to save a relationship.

How come he/she doesn't contribute?

MarcusAurelius

paulineb wrote: »

Would that be your partner you are talking about?

Or someone else's?

Appreciate if someone could spare the emotions and answer the OP please.

MarcusAurelius

CH27 wrote: »

It takes two to want to save a relationship.

How come he/she doesn't contribute?

I was led to believe it's man's job to bring home the dough?

Is this such a 1960s view?