Fair share?

Goldiegirl

MarcusAurelius wrote: »

I was led to believe it's man's job to bring home the dough?

Is this such a 1960s view?

More like 1860's

LannieDuck

Both should contribute, even if different amounts if different incomes. Otherwise the relationship becomes unequal.

Is there a reason why one of the people thinks s/he shouldn't have to pay bills/rent?

marisco_2

Each couple will have their own way of arranging their finances. When both are earning a salary I would say that it was unusual for one party not to contribute anything towards a mortgage, household expenses and holidays etc. To my mind once you are living together then there should be no 'mine and yours' but 'ours'. All income into one pot and then this used to cover what it needs to. Keeping back an agreed amount of spends each, so as you have some free money to use without having to refer to each other all the time, is a good idea. It allows for a level of independence and also to save for a nice little surprise for a partner every so often too.

thorsoak

When we married, in 1963, it was assumed that OH's salary would provide all necessities - and that mine would provide the luxuries (such as they were :-) ) . When we had children and I worked part-time, on/off temping etc, my salary went into savings.

Once I was back at work fulltime, both salaries went into the same joint account and we had a joint savings account, into which we pushed as much as possible.

It wasn't until the late 1990s that we each opened our own personal accounts, and started doing a bit of "personal" saving.

Attitudes towards finances have changed throughout the years.

mogwai

Goldiegirl wrote: »

More like 1860's

each to their own, my dh brings home the dough and im a sahm atm, even if i was working he'd insist on paying for everything and my money be my own..the way i see it we're both working hard for the family so i dont feel bad or guilty about this set up (though I did used to until dh put it this way!)

as long as theres no resentment or coercion, live how you both see fit!

Carlos77

Both Contributing to the pot in theory is a fair way to do it, but in my case i pay all the bills, as this still leaves me with more cash afterwards than my oh earns, so wouldn't be fair for me to ask anything from her!