Fair share?

Kayalana99

MarcusAurelius wrote: »

Appreciate if someone could spare the emotions and answer the OP please.

Will you stop quoting Pauline please it was a reasonable question to ask and not a dig at you at all.

MrsAtobe

MarcusAurelius wrote: »

Hi all,

How common is it for a working partner not to be contributing their salary to the shared pot, i.e. mortgage, bills, holidays?

If not, how much of a problem is it for a relationship?

I don't think it is at all common, unless there is a vast difference in what they earn.

If both parties are happy, then it's not an issue. If one isn't, and the couple can't sit down and talk, then I think that relationship is in serious trouble.

Kayalana99

MarcusAurelius wrote: »

I was led to believe it's man's job to bring home the dough?

If you were led to believe this and that's what you believe then why the post? If you thought it was OK you wouldn't be here.

MarcusAurelius

Kayalana99 wrote: »

I'd say it's not common but it happens, a guy at OH's work is like this he pays for everything and his wife spends all her money on herself (whilst not contributing )

It's not a problem for them as he loves her and doesn't care...and she walks all over him.

I would of thought people in this situations would either pay their share or it wouldn't be a problem - if it was a problem then they wouldn't be doing it that way ? Does that make sense!!

Thanks, not a problem for me either. Topic closed.

CH27

MarcusAurelius wrote: »

I was led to believe it's man's job to bring home the dough?

Is this such a 1960s view?

Are you the male or female in the relationship?

paulineb_2

MarcusAurelius wrote: »

Appreciate if someone could spare the emotions and answer the OP please.

Is there a reason why you answered my post twice?

paulineb_2

MarcusAurelius wrote: »

I was led to believe it's man's job to bring home the dough?

Is this such a 1960s view?

If you don't want people to level the word troll at you maybe you'll stop making posts like these.

Your original post was about people paying their way, now it's about the man bringing home the dough.

But I see the topic is now closed. Fair enough.

Mirno

My Ex didn't contribute to the mortgage, but we split all other bills proportionally to salary.
I did insist that she saved the equivalent to a mortgage contribution though - if we got married it would then be ours and if we split (which obviously we did as she's now my ex) it was a pot of money to help her when she moved out.
It kept things neater in terms of her contributing to my house or not.

Also as I earned more than her, I tended to pay (most of the time) when we went out. I'd rather we both went to places that I could afford, than force her to pay half for places she couldn't.

hgotsparkle

Mirno wrote: »

Also as I earned more than her, I tended to pay (most of the time) when we went out. I'd rather we both went to places that I could afford, than force her to pay half for places she couldn't.

This is basically the same for me and my OH, he earns more so he pays, and if I'm having a tight month, he'll pay all of one weeks food shop instead of paying half each. We find this works well as we're both contributing as equally as possible, with some flexibility for me as I'm a low earner, though hes not carrying the full financial strain. It doesn't stop me feeling bad when he has to pay for me though, as I don't think it should all be one sided but I show my gratitude by treating him when I do have some spare cash.

BitterAndTwisted

You have nothing in common and you pay all the bills. Why do you think she's sticking around in this "relationship" if you can call it that? I could hazard a guess.