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I assume there's a few older peeps on this thread, 26 is a pretty normal age to still be at home these days, a few years ago it may not have been heard of0
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There's nothing particularly great about living at home at the age of 26, and especially when you've boomeranged back.
It's all very personal, my parents (and all their close friends) stayed at home until they married in their late 20s. As I say, depends a lot on your upbringing/personal choice.0 -
Cant see that the age is really relevant here. Normally I would say stay at home and save up but if the situation is really getting to you then leave. How is your relationship with your mother if you keep siding with her husband?Please do not quote spam as this enables it to 'live on' once the spam post is removed.
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I think it is up to how you feel. If you think that you can put up with all the aggro for the sake of saving for a house then do it. There is nothing wrong with young people being helped out by parents until they are able to be independent. Why pay extortionate rent when you don't have to, when you know you want to buy a place. Its a personal decision.The forest would be very silent if no birds sang except for the birds that sang the best0
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Buzzybee90 wrote: »It's all very personal, my parents (and all their close friends) stayed at home until they married in their late 20s. As I say, depends a lot on your upbringing/personal choice.
Same here. Maybe it's to do with whereabouts in the country you are but housing is very expensive here (east anglia). My family members in the north east certainly flew the nest much earlier .
My half brother is 44 and still lives with his mum! 26 isn't bad at all! (I was 25, husband 28 when we finally left).
It depends a lot on circumstances and aims. Certainly husband and I considered our situation at the time temporary even if it was for 2 years. Many people are the same, they see it as a temporary measure until they can leave. Others have no plans to, don't see the point so don't bother. A couple I know are married, live with her parents, pay a tiny amount of rent, don't save, had a v expensive wedding that they took a loan out for and are paying it back at the rate of £500 a month, just had a baby and have bought all the expensive gear for it. They certainly don't intend on leaving!0 -
Same here. Maybe it's to do with whereabouts in the country you are but housing is very expensive here (east anglia). My family members in the north east certainly flew the nest much earlier .
My half brother is 44 and still lives with his mum! 26 isn't bad at all! (I was 25, husband 28 when we finally left).
It depends a lot on circumstances and aims. Certainly husband and I considered our situation at the time temporary even if it was for 2 years. Many people are the same, they see it as a temporary measure until they can leave. Others have no plans to, don't see the point so don't bother. A couple I know are married, live with her parents, pay a tiny amount of rent, don't save, had a v expensive wedding that they took a loan out for and are paying it back at the rate of £500 a month, just had a baby and have bought all the expensive gear for it. They certainly don't intend on leaving!
Same area Sulphate, and rural EA at that!0 -
Same area and I moved out for the first time at age 16 for 6 months and for good at age 18.
My sister (6 years younger than me), moved out at 17/18 but my brother (3 years older), didn't go until his 30's!We made it! All three boys have graduated, it's been hard work but it shows there is a possibility of a chance of normal (ish) life after a diagnosis (or two) of ASD. It's not been the easiest route but I am so glad I ignored everything and everyone and did my own therapies with them.
Eldests' EDS diagnosis 4.5.10, mine 13.1.11 eekk - now having fun and games as a wheelchair user.0 -
Each of me two boomeranged back, on one occasion at the same time! However, they both contributed to our household.
It really sounds as if the stepfather is resenting the fact that he is supporting OP. Definitely time to pay your way, whether at home or with a flat share.Member #14 of SKI-ers club
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DH and I love each other's adult kids to bits - but we would not want any of them living with us! :eek:
26 is too old to still be at home, so, get a flat and leave them to their arguments, is my view.
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I boomeranged back for six months at the age of 31, but I got out as quickly as I could!
I'd go with trying to find a flat-share OP - or offer some board money.
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