7/8 year old girls, when they're good, they're very very good, but...

daveyjp

We have similar with an 8 year old and once she starts we walk away to another room and ignore her. 5 minutes of no attention and it passes.

I certainly wouldn't hold onto her for half an hour.

Bublin1

My dd is 5 and acting up - she has started early!!

skintchick

Bublin1 wrote: »

My dd is 5 and acting up - she has started early!!

Mine is five in a few weeks and this describes her perfectly! It''s SO hard to deal with. We try and do natural consequences and "time ins" rather than sending her away, so lots of reassurance and love. But my word it is challenging!

mcja

My 7.5yo dd isn't as extreme as OP's daughter but the chopsy attitude and smart mouth is driving me round the bend. She makes herself the centre of attention, although she gets plenty of positive attention.
This afternoon her brother had a friend over. She mucked about in the pool, showing off, and even turned the Ps3 off mid game...little toad.
Will be following this thread with interest.

Errata

daveyjp wrote: »

We have similar with an 8 year old and once she starts we walk away to another room and ignore her. 5 minutes of no attention and it passes.

I certainly wouldn't hold onto her for half an hour.

Exactly, no audience to perform to equals no performance.

bylromarha

Just wanted to give you a hug as it sounds like you're going through it at the moment.

Why don't these little people come with a handbook?!

Keep doing what you're doing and try not to take it out on the hubby - keep being team about it if you can.

And you know your daughter loves you too, she's just finding it hard to express her feelings when she's in that frame of mind.

Keep going.

meritaten

she sounds just like my Granddaughter and her Father. both on the ASD spectrum and diagnosed as such. I would ask the GP to refer her to the appropriate mental health team.

Emkayoli

I could have written this post except my daughter is 6 and the behaviour is about 50-50. I've been on Parenting courses, had sure start in, sent behavioural Pyschs and lost count of all the techniques we have tried with her that she doesn't respond too.

School are finally referring her to be seen by someone.

I don't have any advice but your not alone!

mehak_327

umm...so is corporal punishment not an option ? Used to work fine when we were kids and being horrible !

z.n

F-Baby, my wonderful DS is doing really well thankyou. He is emotional and has the odd testosterone surge but has (in the main) learned to manage his natural tendency to worry. A couple of things got broken between 11 and now though-mainly because I had to learn when to back off and wait. When a bit younger, if things seemed really out of control I would send him out for a run. Sometimes the hormones just have to be exercised away. We seem to be getting past that point though-he knows when he is feeling jumpy and takes himself for a run. A bit of space and time to himself works wonders-along with regular food and sleep! And plenty of hugs.

I have to say his school are fantastic at giving them CBT type strategies for coping with exam and other stresses- he will express a worry and then immediately answer his own concern with what is a sensible and logical calming notion. I can't praise this aspect of the school highly enough. At home I would try to get him to put a name to his feelings and what caused them so he would be prepared next time that situation arose.