URGENT: Greedy landlord gone OTT..?

liz545

I agree with other posters, that you shouldn't agree to pay the landlady any rent. You don't have a tenancy agreement with her, but paying her any money may be viewed as accepting liability if she subsequently tried to pursue this further. You may have an obligation to bills, but that's as far as it goes. Your girlfriend needs to stand up to this woman - she has no right to insist that you're not present at negotiations. Frankly, if she's not happy there and the landlady's trying to extort money from you, just pack up and leave. Surely there are other properties in the area you can move into? And for what it's worth, I wouldn't accept your girlfriend's ultimatum - you need to explain to her that the landlady is behaving illegally, and as your girlfriend she needs to support you and behave like a grown-up, rather than being bullied and intimidated!

lynzpower

walk awy from the whole mess is my advice.

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i cant believe you are even considering this, you have no contract and that is that.

Gorgeous_George

I would ask the LL to give you a contract from the date she first asked for a contribution. You may consider, as a gesture of goodwill, paying something for the services that you have received free of charge. It is only right that you should pay your own way in life.

As for the GF, I would not stay in a relationship with someone who gave me such an ultimatum.



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xela_17

I have read this thread in growing disbelief at (a) the landlord's cheek at asking for rent when you have no contract with her and (b) your girlfriend's ultimatum that either you pay up or you're dumped! Don't be a doormat - you're in the right and they're both being ridiculous.

I agree with other posters that you should perhaps pay a little towards bills (this needs to be a fair amount) but that's it. Also, again with other posters: your girlfriend is being intimidated by other housemates and by the landlord and you're suffering because of it. I think you and your girlfriend need to have a serious chat about your relationship as if my boyfriend tried that with me it would be him who was dumped.

Have you talked to your parents about this situation as i am sure they would advise the same as the posters on here, i.e. don't give in to the landlord. (Btw, if it went to court, which it never would as the situation is ridiculous, but if it did, it would be the landlord getting thrown out for wasting time, not you).

If you don't pay and your girlfriend was asked to leave i think it would be the best thing for both of you as this situation has now become untenable and it sounds like your girlfriend has been unhappy there for a long time.

pinkshoes

You were sharing a room, so asking for £350/month is ludicrous!

paying a share of the bills would be reasonable, so 1/5th of bills (gas, elec, water, CT) for the 2 out of 7 nights you were there.

so 20% * 2/7 = 5.7%

About £200 should cover bills for a year...

You should take this as a sign!!! your OHs housemates don't like her, she's living in a house where she feels intimidated enough not to be able to stand up for herself, so in all honesty, she should just move out ASAP! it's fate...

As for her threatening to dump you if you don't pay the £2000, then that's rather pathetic, and she isn't showing any respect towards you. if my OH said that (i used to stay at his 3 or 4 nights a week - although did cook for his housemates and clean every week!!), then I would be horrified that he would treat me in such a way!

whowants2brich

Thanks for the continued updates...

The question that seems to be cropping up now is how much is a fair amount for the bills..? Short of asking her to produce a copy of all the bills, dividing them by 5 and then paying my share...

Should I offer £50 a month, knowing that the bills are probably less than that? Or could the bills be more than that? As one person wrote, for things like the heating and hot water, there probably wouldn't have been that much of an increase as a result of me being there - but I agree that I should pay for the electricity (cooking etc). Council tax and sky tv are also included, but as I wasn't on the electoral roll, I can't be asked to pay a share of that? Or can I?

I'd love to pay nothing, but I accept that I should contribute towards the bills. That was never the issue. I just don't want to give her more money than she is fairly entitled to - but I don't know what that would be?

Many thanks,
Whowants2brich

arthur_dent_2

Personally I would not pay her a penny but seeing as you appear to be a nice bloke, I reckon about a pound a day would easily cover everything that you use utility wise.

Also around here you could get a house for about £400 not inclusive of bills obviously but still well within the means of most young couples. I think it might be time to take a long hard look at what you want from your relationship and move on or in accordingly.

nej

My view:

Crazy! Your g/f rents a room... as far as I'm concerned she can do what she wants in that room.

But, let me get this straight: Your g/f doesn't really like living there, but still thinks you should keep the LL sweet by paying up? Hell no, get out and rent a place together.

This might sound silly, but given the ultimatum she's given you ("pay or you're dumped"), have you considered the possibility she's kind of "in league" with the LL?

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Dump her and get a new girlfriend

psychostudy

Read through thread. Agree with others. U crazy! Girlfriend even crazier!

MOVE OUT!!!!

Why is she living in such a horrible atmosphere? What a silly thing to do! Why won't she move? Why didn't she move the moment things started getting difficult? Your home should be your safe place, not a place of strife and conflict and awkwardness.

If you have £1,500 to spare then why don't you help her to get out of there? Surely that's enough for a deposit and first month's rent?

What is stopping her from moving?