feeling really down

summerof0763

Mojisola wrote: »

Have you come across Perth and Kinross Action On Hearing Loss?

https://www.actiononhearingloss.org.uk/scotland.aspx

https://www.actiononhearingloss.org.uk/news-and-events/scotland/news/hear-to-help-showcases-impact-in-perthshire.aspx

funnily enough I did come across this and a lady came to visit me she changed the tubes on my hearing aids and said she would see what help she could find on getting me a telephone and another appointment at audiology as I have not had one for a few years never heard back from her or hospital xx

Goldiegirl

In the last couple of months I have suffered a mild to moderate hearing loss in one ear. Even at that level of hearing loss, I have difficulty in hearing on my 'bad side', especially in noisy situations. It can be very isolating, and it is sometimes easier just to be at home, where you don't have to listen to people.


Therefore, I really sympathise with what the OP is saying. One of the things that has been suggested to me, is to try lip-reading classes. I will be trying this, probably next year when I stop work, to a) help myself to understand people when it's noisy and b) to meet a few people like me.


Just wondered if there was anything like this locally you could try

summerof0763

Mojisola wrote: »

Don't know whether this is your area or not -
https://www.southperthcommunitypartnership.co.uk/WhatsOn.html
Six Circle Project sounds interesting.

will look into this one the walk and the lung one as I suffer from lung damage.although it is a good distance from me I am at other end of town but will see what bus service is like to there thank you xx

Mojisola

summerof0763 wrote: »

funnily enough I did come across this and a lady came to visit me she changed the tubes on my hearing aids and said she would see what help she could find on getting me a telephone and another appointment at audiology as I have not had one for a few years never heard back from her or hospital xx

Did you phone her to chase it up?

summerof0763

Goldiegirl wrote: »

In the last couple of months I have suffered a mild to moderate hearing loss in one ear. Even at that level of hearing loss, I have difficulty in hearing on my 'bad side', especially in noisy situations. It can be very isolating, and it is sometimes easier just to be at home, where you don't have to listen to people.


Therefore, I really sympathise with what the OP is saying. One of the things that has been suggested to me, is to try lip-reading classes. I will be trying this, probably next year when I stop work, to a) help myself to understand people when it's noisy and b) to meet a few people like me.


Just wondered if there was anything like this locally you could try

I taught myself to lipread when I was young, but its no good if its a man with a mustache n beard, or if people mumble, also I find if you say to people you are deaf they start to shout, I hate that all you need is for them to face you and speak clearly, xx

summerof0763

Mojisola wrote: »

Did you phone her to chase it up?

I can't phone as she was to see about a phone for me, but I had forgotten the name of the place, but now you have found it for me again I will contact them again, x

Mojisola

summerof0763 wrote: »

I find if you say to people you are deaf they start to shout, I hate that all you need is for them to face you and speak clearly, xx

Then you have to say "My hearing isn't very good but if you face me and speak clearly, I will be able to follow what you're saying".

Start making the world behave as you want rather than hiding away because others don't know what you need.

summerof0763

slightlyconfused1 wrote: »

Hi

I am in the same position as your eldest daughter and really don't get to see my mum as much as I'd like. My Mum is very hard of hearing not profoundly deaf so I managed to get a phone from rnid. We talk most days. It can be frustrating for Mum as she doesn't always catch every thing I say but at least we maintain contact.

Would you and your eldest daughter make a set time every couple of days so you can email back and forth? At least it would widen your circle of contact slightly. It can be enough, sometimes, just to touch base to make you feel involved in their life.

we txt each other every day and I go and see her on a thurs, she is sitting her driving test soon, and I really hope she passes as she is very isolated where she is but they needed the space of a bigger house.sso hopefully if she can drive I will see more of her, but I am wanting to widen my circle I don't want to have to rely on my daughters as I feel I rely on them too much as it is xx

melanzana

Hi OP. As my mum always said..."if you always do what you always did, you will always get what you always got!"

So I say, do something different. I fully accept that depression can stop you wanting to do anything. So firstly, get to the doc and try and get that sorted. It might take a bit of time , and trial and error, but it will help.

THEN, when you feel a bit better in yourself, you might feel a bit more confident about joining groups and so on. It's not easy. I know. But you have two choices here....

1. You can delay getting medical help, and let yourself go under, or
2. You can get help and try to rise above the black dog.

I had meningitis and septicaemia at 23 years old. I am so lucky to be alive now. But the illness left me quite deaf. It has improved slightly over the years through technology and aids etc. but I was totally out of it, not being able to communicate and listen to the radio and all the rest of it.

Anyhow, I have thankfully had a successful career. Went to university as a mature student, did all kinds of things. All with partial deafness.

It wasn't easy, because TBH when you are hearing impaired, some people think you are thick! And some don't have the patience to deal with you either...life today I guess!

I tell very one new to me that I have a hearing difficulty due to illness, and could they X, Y and Z for me to help me out?

Without fail, it works.

I just thought I would try and lift your spirits a bit. I hope you will be OK.

M.

SailorSam

Goldiegirl wrote: »

Therefore, I really sympathise with what the OP is saying. One of the things that has been suggested to me, is to try lip-reading classes. I will be trying this, probably next year when I stop work, to a) help myself to understand people when it's noisy and b) to meet a few people like me.

This is going off the topic of the thread so i hope you'll excuse me, but it was just a funny story i heard about lip reading.
Last week we had the River Festival here in Liverpool and much of it was based around WW1, 'cos of the 100yr anniversary. One man who was speaking told a story about his Mum who had worked in a noisy ammunitions factory. He was asking her about a Govt film at the time to support the men in the trenches, but she told him that all the women from the factory had walked out before the end 'cos of the bad language. He told her 'it was a silent movie' What bad language ?
She said, 'cos of the noise in the factory they'd all learnt to lip-read, so knew what the soldiers were saying.