Problems with my almost 4 year old little girl

Bettyboop

As it's her 4th party and I have decided to lots of games with the incentive to win some small prizes. I have pass the parcel and musical chairs. I played pin the tail on the donkey when I was a child but I thought of a game called pin the crown on the princess. Anyone have an idea of where I can get an A3 size picture of a princess? I can print the crowns from my clip art in Word but the princess pictures available are not to dandy. Thanks.

Bettyboop

Ellies mum your thread made me laugh. Good for you sticking to your guns. If we always give in which if often easier than having huge uncontrollable tantrums then they will always expect something from the supermarket or wherever we take them. Thanks.

arthur_dent_2

If it is any consellation to you my little girl (party also coming up) has turned into the child from hell. She has become very rebellious and throws a strop at every opportunity. She is driving me crazy.

misswig

OMG, i'd heard of the terrible 2's but not about this stage:eek:

My DS turns 3 next week and for the past 2 weeks he has been absolutely vile. All i can attribute it too is that he started preschool round about the same time and isn't getting as much sleep during the day as he is used too.

I've tried to counteract this by putting him to bed a half an hour earlier at 7pm but generally he comes down at least once before he goes to sleep:eek: . Last night i heard him get up and then nothing so i peeped in to find he had got the book we had read before bed and was laying there reading it:A . It was so sweet i left him to it but this morning it was tantrum after tantrum, the full heel kicking kind:eek: , Then when i took him to nursery he was all happy and smiley with everybody.

I'm just going with it at the moment as i know it is probably been brought about through a change in routine and it is a matter of changing with it but it is so difficult to keep your cool when he is screaming around the supermarket because you say he cant have the biscuits because he had just thrown them on the floor in a temper.

Maybe its his revenge for not putting me throught he terrible twos!!

crispeater

lol my daughter is 4 a week today:eek: where did those 4 years go???

she is a right pain in the a..e lol like yours she asks for food then wastes it, screams and crys when she cant get her own way. fights with her brother & pushes him over. she's supposed to start school in september but coz of my work and the lack of finding a childminder shes going to wait til april when she can go fulltime rather than a few hours a day. I CANT WAIT :rotfl:

she decided on the pirate theme for her party, and we've got pin the patch on the pirate, a pullata bit like a punata but you dont bash it you pull ribbons, egg & spoon race and weather permitting i've got a pirate themed bouncy castle coming! :T

so just so you know.. we're all going through it with these lovely 4 year olds lol

Nicki

Please don't be upset by the poster who suggested parenting classes, but also don't necessarily discount them solely because of some of the ensuing howls of protest. There are classes and classes, and not all of them are aimed at hopeless parents of delinquent children!

I know that our local parents advice centre does parenting classes for parents who just want a bit more info about how to deal with common issues (a bit like the kind of advice which is being given here). The groups are quite small and the parents all swop tips about what has worked for them. They meet fairly regularly and report back on how the advice has worked, and if it hasn't helped new strategies are formulated.

I haven't been to the standard classes but I've been to a couple of different ones about parenting children with serious learning difficulties (as my child has) as their behaviour can also be extreme but they lack the understanding to improve it. I found these enormously helpful, as much down to meeting other parents and realising both that the problem was not my fault, and that there would be a solution to it eventually, than anything the people running the course actually said.

Hope this isn't offensive, it really isn't meant to be! You sound like a lovely mum and your child sounds very normal to me. Just didn't want you to disregard a potentially useful support group (particularly if OH is not full time on the scene) purely because of a fear of stigmatisation.

crispeater

cathy2702 wrote: »

Dont worry about doing activities with her, my dd helps me make dinner and washes up when I bother (I usually wait until shes in bed), plus we have baths together sometimes! You dont have to go out of your way to do special activities with her, just include her in the daily grind with you.

my dd had a treat of cleaning the skirting boards in the kitchen on saturday :rotfl: :rotfl: she loved it coz she was really just playing with the warm bubbly water

Savvy_Sue

Nicki wrote: »

Please don't be upset by the poster who suggested parenting classes, but also don't necessarily discount them solely because of some of the ensuing howls of protest. There are classes and classes, and not all of them are aimed at hopeless parents of delinquent children!

Ever since the parenting classes got such a negative reaction I've been wanting to say something similar! The one thing I am sure about is that you will come out thinking that your problems are AS NOTHING compared to some of the others shared!

Grumpysally

Re the parenting classes. I suspect it was not so much the classes sugestion which has caused the outcry, as the insinuation that seems to be contained in the sentence following it.

''my advice? ring your HV and find out about some local parenting classes. you need to learn how to handle a normal child and deal with your own issues.''

Ax

Bettyboop

For those who want to know I have phoned and left a message for my health visitor but she is on holiday for 2 weeks. DS had a big scream when I fetched her today because she was tired. That made me really sad as I had missed her all day. Yes, I know some of her behaviour is normal but surely this shouldn't be a continous everyday episode!