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We shall take pics! I think there is everything I need in the parcel for the next year! I even broke a nail earlier and reached for my new flowery scissors and rose printed emery boards. There is everything I could ever need, it's wonderful!Until one has loved an animal a part of one's soul remains unawakened - Anatole France
If I knew that the world would end tomorrow, I would still plant apple trees today - Martin Luther King0 -
Waves_and_Smiles wrote: ».
I know how loaded it is, I feel like that with every DLA form I fill in, if I was to be refused then I would feel like a fraud and the fact that I was accepted made me feel totally depressed.
This is it.
The 'fraud' thing feels huge. I do use a stick but less often, but ironically, more reliance on mobility aids isn't more mobile. Add the fact that somedays I might be able to walk...I don't know..a few miles maybe, on level ground. Others, just doing my chores is so much I feel depleted that getting basic supplies would be too much effort.
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I understand exactly what you mean, LIR. Sometimes days are like today and I am typing away and happy. Other days I am either dropping everything, staggering when I walk or catatonic. It isn't consistent. The thing is you and I both need help to be able to do things that other people can do whenever they choose to. We don't have that daily choice. That is both validating and miserable all at once.Until one has loved an animal a part of one's soul remains unawakened - Anatole France
If I knew that the world would end tomorrow, I would still plant apple trees today - Martin Luther King0 -
I know just how you feel LiR, I've always plummetted into depression after filling in DLA forms and blue badge forms. It is so depressing having to outline all the problems and things I can't do, rather than just shoving it all to the back of my mind and either carrying on determinedly or sleeping !!
I too vary in what I can do from day to day and also find it so difficult to describe my problems.
I was refused a blue badge as I only recieve lower rate mobility DLA, in this area they only issue a blue badge if you recieve high rate DLA , I've been refused twice now. Luckily for me both my husband and my friend over the road have blue badges and they are the ones who are often with me when I go out and about so I am OK then. Often these two wait for me to catch up but apparently there's nothing wrong with me :mad:
Apparently having to sit in the car for 10 minutes after buying the parking ticket before I can manage the five minute walk to the doctors is not a problem :mad::mad:
Sorry, think I'm in rant mode, I've been feeling very weird and spaced out all day after starting my new meds yesterday so apart from a very wobbly dog walk I haven't dared do much at all
Secret Rooster is being more and more noisy, even when shut indoors at 5am and 9pmSo I have started e-mailing around to try and rehome him . So sad about this
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oystercatcher wrote: »I know just how you feel LiR, I've always plummetted into depression after filling in DLA forms and blue badge forms. It is so depressing having to outline all the problems and things I can't do, rather than just shoving it all to the back of my mind and either carrying on determinedly or sleeping !!
I too vary in what I can do from day to day and also find it so difficult to describe my problems.
I was refused a blue badge as I only recieve lower rate mobility DLA, in this area they only issue a blue badge if you recieve high rate DLA , I've been refused twice now. Luckily for me both my husband and my friend over the road have blue badges and they are the ones who are often with me when I go out and about so I am OK then. Often these two wait for me to catch up but apparently there's nothing wrong with me :mad:
Apparently having to sit in the car for 10 minutes after buying the parking ticket before I can manage the five minute walk to the doctors is not a problem :mad::mad:
Sorry, think I'm in rant mode, I've been feeling very weird and spaced out all day after starting my new meds yesterday so apart from a very wobbly dog walk I haven't dared do much at all
Secret Rooster is being more and more noisy, even when shut indoors at 5am and 9pmSo I have started e-mailing around to try and rehome him . So sad about this
To keep secret rooster quiet overnight he needs to be somewhere where he cannot reach up, somewhere perched where there is low head Hight.
He cannot crow if he cannot extend his neck. This is only fair IMO if he is a free range rooster through the day, but might be an option if he is.
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Thanks LiR , Farmer Son had said this and also keeping him in the dark (which it is at those times) . I'm really not sure how we could manage this without being cruel, unless we adapted a small dog crate and kept him seperate.....
I will see what comes of my current enquiries. He is becoming quite aggressive towards his ladies too one of them is very tiny. It wasn't an ideal mix that farmer son brought home. He's now at the stage where he thinks he knows everything due to having two years of limited experience and even I with no experience in farming can see that he has loads to learn
The B badge people will probably suggest you apply for DLA as if you qualify for one then you will the other . This happened with husband he recieved a blue badge and then DLA a little while after. The extra money is really useful for paying for transport instead of walking.Decluttering, 20 mins / day Jan 2024 2/20 -
Sorry LIR, I accidentally talked across your original post about your blue badge.
Mr JM gets very very low when it is form filling time. He really believes that he is a waste of space - he is someone who used to be very practical before his neuro illness developed, and he feels bad enough as it is that he isn't enough to work, without the DWP treating him as a 'bloody useless scrounger' (this term came from a telly programme where a DWP member of staff said that's how they refer to claimants).
He was treated VERY badly (I won't put details on here!) the first time he had to apply under the new system. Fortunately we have an excellent MP who sorted it out immediately - you've never heard such apologies from the DWP! But ever since then, he's been incredibly depressed about all things benefit related. We have regular arguments where he says he isn't going to claim any more and I say that is just giving in to them, and if he won't apply then I will on his behalf. So far I have won
(He gets higher rate DLA for mobility and care, and has a BB.)Ex board guide. Signature now changed (if you know, you know).0 -
jobbingmusician wrote: »
Mr JM gets very very low when it is form filling time. He really believes that he is a waste of space - he is someone who used to be very practical before his neuro illness developed, and he feels bad enough as it is that he isn't enough to work, without the DWP treating him as a 'bloody useless scrounger' (this term came from a telly programme where a DWP member of staff said that's how they refer to claimants).
This is exactly how I feel
So sorry your husband has these problems JMDecluttering, 20 mins / day Jan 2024 2/20 -
oystercatcher wrote: »Thanks LiR , Farmer Son had said this and also keeping him in the dark (which it is at those times) . I'm really not sure how we could manage this without being cruel, unless we adapted a small dog crate and kept him seperate.....
I will see what comes of my current enquiries. He is becoming quite aggressive towards his ladies too one of them is very tiny. It wasn't an ideal mix that farmer son brought home. He's now at the stage where he thinks he knows everything due to having two years of limited experience and even I with no experience in farming can see that he has loads to learn
Our boys are behaving 'springy' too. The weather is throwing everyone. Our his legs normally pale or dark, I know there was a picture, but I'm afraid I cannot remember. If they are nomally pale and they are blushed now its normal 'boy hormones' you'd expect in spring.....which isn't necessarily a bad thing. However if he is being over aggressive then yes, he's probably not begs suited to a small home flock.
Sadly there is not much call for pet roosters and rehoming them doesn't usually secure them an safe future. The best ethical and responsible solution, I'm sad to say, is a nice last supper and a clean quiet home dispatch by an experienced person.
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oystercatcher wrote: »This is exactly how I feel
So sorry your husband has these problems JM
Thank you for understanding, but I'm sorry you feel this way too. You obviously are a very postive member of society - you give a lot to this thread, for example. Mr JM is the same - he contributes a lot to the lives of lots of people, without necessarily realising it. I think you should both go and watch 'It's a Wonderful Life' (which does NOTHING for Mr JM!) and realise how much one life can affect othersxxxxx
ETA Sorry, I read this back and it sounds trite. I do mean it, though! xxxxEx board guide. Signature now changed (if you know, you know).0
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