School advice please...

speakeasy

I have / had a good relationship with the school, my child is a high achiever and often receives awards. The school assured me that action was being taken. I did think that after half term all would be ok as the other child would not be back. That is not the case.
With regards to the police, I cant understand why they have not spoken to the child.

whitewing

Could you take your child in just for lessons and bring him home for lunchtime? Possibly arrange for him to take breaks in the classroom or library (perhaps with a friend).

pmlindyloo

whitewing wrote: »

Could you take your child in just for lessons and bring him home for lunchtime? Possibly arrange for him to take breaks in the classroom or library (perhaps with a friend).

I do not see why the OP should be doing this.

OP, you must be far more proactive.

Have you contacted the police and found out why this hasn't been followed up?

If this was me I would be at the school finding out why this young person has been allowed back into classes and not permanently excluded.

This is a very serious attack to result in such injuries.

Your son should not be the one to be off school and missing out on his education.

Get up to the school asap and telephone the police now.

savingmummy

Oh my goodness ;(
I hope your son is recovering ok, I can`t imagine what you`ve all been through what a terrible thing to happen.


I wouldn't want my son there with that boy there either, its a disgrace.


My friend had a `similar` incident where her son (11) was breaking up a fight and got headbutted so hard it knocked his front teeth out and tore his gum.
Police were called and acted very quickly and the boy was removed from the school and was attending another secondary school as `punishment`. He returned after a week and so far his kept his head down and changed.
This boy was known for his violence yet the school were keen not to have him removed as it effects the schools records *sigh*


In this case he clearly is very violent, I don`t feel he should be back!

GobbledyGook

The other child should not be out in the playground at breaks. They should be sat somewhere where a member of staff not on a break can keep an eye on them. Especially in a secondary school where supervision levels at break time are often low.

I think you need to get into the school, and on the phone to the police, and start being a bit more demanding. Sadly it is sometimes a case of 'he who shouts the loudest gets the most' and the other parents obviously are prepared to shout loud to protect their child's education - you need to do the same.

If the other parents are yelling loudly at the school and you are quietly waiting you are likely to be waiting longer.

z.n

So sorry for your son. Having watched all those 'Educating Essex' shows recently I just wonder if there is a particular reason this child is so violent and, knowing that your son is in a safe happy home, the school is focusing just too much on the perpetrator because he is at risk of self harm or something. It does seem surprising that this boy can mix freely at lunch and break though. Personally, the minimum I could accept would be the complete segregation of this child given the severity of the attack.

Initially, I would give the school the benefit of the doubt and get an appointment asap to clarify - rather than complain. ie don't go in all guns blazing just yet. But you must speak to them face to face so you can assess if action is genuinely being taken but proving logistically tricky. Your son has the right to feel safe, as do all the other pupils who no doubt witnessed or have heard about what happened.

Good luck.

WestonDave

Easy to say when I don't know your work commitments etc but I personally would be in the school waiting for a response rather than giving them unlimited time to phone or email. Same with the police. As the saying goes the squeaky wheel gets the oil, and whilst it would be wrong to be aggressive or rude, quiet assertiveness, insisting that your son as a victim of a criminal attack is treated seriously is well within your rights. Otherwise the danger is the police write it off as something the school can deal with internally (boys will be boys etc) and the school will leave you quietly at home because its easier than dealing with the more assertive parents of the perpetrator.


Also worth finding out who the governors are to approach them regarding pushing for a resolution, and maybe also your local councillors who again may be apply to apply some pressure.

speakeasy

Thanks everyone.
Just an update, I'm more fuming now than before.


Have spoke with the head at great length earlier, they cant move the child until another school accepts, therefore they "have" to offer an education.


Spoke to police, child is coming into station this week.


Feel like I have been far too trusting of the school to take care of it.

silvercar

speakeasy wrote: »

Thanks everyone.
Just an update, I'm more fuming now than before.


Have spoke with the head at great length earlier, they cant move the child until another school accepts, therefore they "have" to offer an education.


Spoke to police, child is coming into station this week.


Feel like I have been far too trusting of the school to take care of it.

The local authority has to offer an education. This can be in the form of sending tutors to the student's house until they persuade a school to find room for the terror.

GobbledyGook

The LA have to offer the child an education, this is true.

However the also 'have' to offer your child an education in a safe and secure environment where he feels protected and isn't likely to bump into his attacker.

You need to get onto the LA, the governors and the police again. Your child is the victim and it should not be your child whose education suffers any further because he was attacked in what should have been a safe place.