Tell me to stop being silly? -___-

Kayalana99

Hi guys!!

Me and my OH have talked about getting a dog since the day we got together but we choose to have the children first & close together ~ both under 2 so still quite little

I have been searching for a dog for a while but just in passing and more for fun as we wanted to wait a while with the children i.e looking up Rspca sites for a really family dog as having little ones I just couldn't risk anything less and came across one on gumtree.

At the time I didn't think much of it but I found myself going back and finding this advert a few times in the week and then I liked the facebook page as they are a small charity type rescue and I found myself constantly reading up on her and looking at her photos and I havn't even met this dog but I feel like I am already in love....yet I feel so silly for it as well as it makes no sense to me!!

I messaged them about the doggie and explained the situation and he has said that although she has shown no aggression whatsoever they would not feel comfortable placing with young children as shes a Romanian doggie that was rescued.

I am tossing and turning and thinking up things to say to see if I can change his mind.. :rotfl: but at the same time I am thinking I should probably leave it and respect his judgement.....and I also am a bit scared if I start with some message that how we would be the perfect home etc that we may meet her and it might not feel right anyway...although my gut feeling is telling me that won't happen!!

Argh.

Tyler_Du

Is it really worth the risk that the dog might attack your children? Rescue dogs are an unknown quantity. I have a 2.5 year old daughter, we've just got a puppy from a breeder, yes it was expensive, but at least we can train the puppy ourselves. Plus,a puppy is a lot of work, a human baby will poo and pee in its nappy, a puppy will poo and pee (until it's trained) anywhere.

Kayalana99

Tyler_Durden_UK wrote: »

Is it really worth the risk that the dog might attack your children? Rescue dogs are an unknown quantity. I have a 2.5 year old daughter, we've just got a puppy from a breeder, yes it was expensive, but at least we can train the puppy ourselves. Plus,a puppy is a lot of work, a human baby will poo and pee in its nappy, a puppy will poo and pee (until it's trained) anywhere.

Tbh I really am no expert but I would think that risk would be taken with any dog around children & I don't think I would feel comfortable taking a puppy on with the children so young as untill it is trained you do run the risk of them getting to playful with the children and hurting them without meaning to?

mountainofdebt

As far as I know alot of charities are very wary of letting dogs be homed with children as young as yours.

In fairness I take my hat off to the charity for saying no - I know that its disappointing when they turn you down - but they are only thinking of you and the dog

Kayalana99

I know I know I don't blame them for it but...

mountainofdebt

I know he's cute and adorable but trust me they all are that age lol

Francesanne

Please don't let your heart rule your head. You would be heart broken if it didn't work out well & you had to return it.Also consider the amount of exercise involved having a dog. Would imagine your two little ones keep you very busy already. Maybe wait until till they're older.

peachyprice

No way. I wouldn't intentionally have a dog in the house until the children were 5 at least. It's not fair to the dog and it's not fair to the children.

Rescues have these rules for a reason, they're the ones who have to deal with the fallout when it all goes wrong.

Kayalana99

Not much I can really do anyway even if my heart is ruling my head I am sure these guys know what they are doing enough not to let her go to someone inexperienced & with two young children.

Suppose I better try and get some sleep.. I wish I hadn't put that picture up my heart melts every time I scroll down lol

Fosterdog

I know how tough it can be, before I was in a position to get a dog I volunteered for a few local rescues and there was one dog that I fell for completely but my situation wasn't suitable for her. I never applied to adopt her, I knew that I didn't meet the criteria for her particular needs but it didn't stop me from wanting her. Several years down the line I have been a foster home for dozens of dogs and adopted two and have a more dog suitable life now than I had back then.

If or when you do go down the line of getting a dog, please do not consider a foreign street dog, I know they have bad lives and need rescuing but those dogs should never be rehomed with children around. Most have spent their lives being abused by people of all ages and while they can be rehabilitated they are likely to always be more fearful and maybe reactive.

The same can be said of street dogs from the UK although as a nation we tend to be a bit kinder to strays than in some other countries, you have no idea what life the dog had before it became a stray.

This is why rescues are strict with rehoming particularly with children, it's not worth the risk to all involved.

Ideally you wan't to look for a surrendered dog that has lived with children before, many rescues now use foster homes and many of the foster homes have children (but very rarely under 5). The other option would be a puppy either from a rescue (more common than most people like to think) or from a reputable breeder. The puppy would be much harder work but you are starting with a clean slate when it comes to training and socialising.

antw23uk

Get over it and stop being irresponsible. You are a mum and have a duty of care to your children. The rescue center has said you wouldn't be suitable so you are NOT.


Stop looking for dogs and concentrate on lovely things and lovely places to go with the kids.


There telling off done .. now feel guilty