Cot To Bed But In Parents Room

Person_one

Kimberley wrote: »

I did ask the landlord if they can go on the waiting list and she said they have to be referred by the Council first but my daughter and her partner are worried that if they do that they will be given a home on an estate because they only get 3 choices. My daughters partner comes from a family where they all have their own homes and that's what he's aiming for, he doesn't want to go into social housing unless it's absolutely necessary. I think maybe keep the boy in the cot and wait until he is starting to climb out and then maybe they won't have a choice.

They don't want to claim benefits. He is seeing what pay rise he gets this year to see what extra money they will have to rent a place. My daughter graduates next year so will hopefully have a job at the end of her course but I have a feeling my grandson will need a bed by then.

More fool them.

Despite what some idiots think, there is no shame in claiming benefits if you need them and fit the criteria. Its certainly more honourable than letting your child or your generous mother suffer for the sake of your pride!

They're clearly working to make a better life for their family, so what's so terrible about accepting a bit of help from the state in the early stages when its tough? If things go well they'll pay it all back and more in taxes over the next 30 or 40 years.

Kimberley

Person_one wrote: »

They're clearly working to make a better life for their family, so what's so terrible about accepting a bit of help from the state in the early stages when its tough? If things go well they'll pay it all back and more in taxes over the next 30 or 40 years.

You have a point

Kimberley

When I googled, it looks like only lone parents who are students get help, not if the partner works as well.

System

I'm sure you will have thought of this already, OP, but is it possible for you to apply to the HA or the local authority for a bigger house? I know housing association houses with several bedrooms are as rare as hens teeth, but you do occasionally get 5 or even 6 bedroomed houses.

The only other option I can think of would be if one of your other children moved out, or if your daughter and her partner were to apply for housing themselves. If your council has a bidding system, it may not necessarily mean having to move to a property in an undesirable area.

tyllwyd

Kimberley wrote: »

Hi
... My daughter, her partner and son are in the one room. The boy at the moment is in a cot, but at 2 he will soon need a bed but my daughter and her partner have all their stuff in the bedroom and a lot of work stuff and my daughters University work, they are worried when the time comes to transfer him to a bed he will keep getting out and touching stuff. He has a regular bedtime and they don't want that messed up by him not staying in the bed.

To be honest, I think you are worrying too much - your daughter and her partner are adults with their own little family, and you are already doing a lot for them by making sure they have a roof over their heads. If it comes to making sure that their child behaves himself at bedtime and doesn't damage their stuff, I think you can leave it as their problem to sort out. They might have to do things like buy a cupboard or boxes and make sure everything is kept safely out of reach, but it's never going to be easy all living in one room so that's a compromise they will have to make.

Person_one

If they do go to a house on an estate, it will only be temporary if they're hoping to buy when they both have better jobs.

Most people who live on estates are perfectly nice, ordinary people anyway. I bet there are plenty of posters on here who live on, or grew up on, council estates.

They have a responsibility to find suitable housing for themselves and their child and keeping him in a cot in his parents' room until he's nearly school age is not the best solution here. I also wonder if living with you is holding them back a bit in terms of acting like adults who are parents, after all, it should be them not you trying to come up with a solution and taking the initiative, shouldn't it?

PenguinJim

In psychiatric wards they use padded restraints that are comfortable but keep the patient in bed.

Kimberley

avogadro wrote: »

I'm sure you will have thought of this already, OP, but is it possible for you to apply to the HA or the local authority for a bigger house? I know housing association houses with several bedrooms are as rare as hens teeth, but you do occasionally get 5 or even 6 bedroomed houses.

I think it's better for them to do your second suggestion, they would have a better chance as we are overcrowded then if we had a bigger home.

Kimberley

PenguinJim wrote: »

In psychiatric wards they use padded restraints that are comfortable but keep the patient in bed.

thanks for the tip but not right for us lol

Mrs_Soup

If they have a cotbed rather than a cot they go up to about 5 so he could stay in that longer in terms of size. If he needs a bed then they could look at different storage that he can't get into until they are able to move to their own place. They will need to do that anyway if they think he will be fiddling with stuff as he could just as easily get to it in the daytime.