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Cot To Bed But In Parents Room

Hi

I live in a 4 bed rental place. My 3 children, all grown up live with me as do my grandson who is 2 and my daughters partner. My daughter, her partner and son are in the one room. The boy at the moment is in a cot, but at 2 he will soon need a bed but my daughter and her partner have all their stuff in the bedroom and a lot of work stuff and my daughters University work, they are worried when the time comes to transfer him to a bed he will keep getting out and touching stuff. He has a regular bedtime and they don't want that messed up by him not staying in the bed.

I was thinking of letting him have my room and I rent a room out somewhere else but I'm not sure if that will be allowed. We are in a housing association property.

Any advise? :D
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  • Mojisola
    Mojisola Posts: 35,571 Forumite
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    Why aren't your daughter and her family looking for somewhere to rent?
  • LocoLoco
    LocoLoco Posts: 422 Forumite
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    Kimberley wrote: »
    Hi

    I live in a 4 bed rental place. My 3 children, all grown up live with me as do my grandson who is 2 and my daughters partner. My daughter, her partner and son are in the one room. The boy at the moment is in a cot, but at 2 he will soon need a bed but my daughter and her partner have all their stuff in the bedroom and a lot of work stuff and my daughters University work, they are worried when the time comes to transfer him to a bed he will keep getting out and touching stuff. He has a regular bedtime and they don't want that messed up by him not staying in the bed.

    I was thinking of letting him have my room and I rent a room out somewhere else but I'm not sure if that will be allowed. We are in a housing association property.

    Any advise? :D

    Put things on shelves where he can't reach them or in units/boxes/crates that can be secured so he can't open them.
  • Person_one
    Person_one Posts: 28,884 Forumite
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    I think you're officially overcrowded now.

    Your daughter and her partner should really be looking to move out, not you. If the HA tenancy is in your name I think you do have to live there.

    Are you worried about bedroom tax if they leave and there are then only 3 adults in a 4 bed house?
  • Kimberley
    Kimberley Posts: 14,871 Forumite
    Mojisola wrote: »
    Why aren't your daughter and her family looking for somewhere to rent?
    They are, this question is not related to what I was asking.
  • Kimberley
    Kimberley Posts: 14,871 Forumite
    Person_one wrote: »
    I think you're officially overcrowded now.

    Your daughter and her partner should really be looking to move out, not you. If the HA tenancy is in your name I think you do have to live there.

    Are you worried about bedroom tax if they leave and there are then only 3 adults in a 4 bed house?

    No I pay full rent here, no benefits. They are looking but my daughter is a student and her partner at the moment is on a low wage and they can't afford private rent at the moment.
  • clairec79
    clairec79 Posts: 2,512 Forumite
    If the house is in your name I would imagine you living there would be a requirement of the rental

    Kids can stay in cots longer than strictly needed
  • Person_one
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    Kimberley wrote: »
    No I pay full rent here, no benefits. They are looking but my daughter is a student and her partner at the moment is on a low wage and they can't afford private rent at the moment.

    Have they applied for a HA property? Students with children are entitled to more benefits than if they don't have any, moving out may be a possibility.

    I would suggest she speak to student services/welfare (they're called different things) at her uni and ask for advice on how to find suitable housing. One room for two adults and a growing child isn't adequate.
  • Kimberley
    Kimberley Posts: 14,871 Forumite
    Person_one wrote: »
    Have they applied for a HA property? Students with children are entitled to more benefits than if they don't have any, moving out may be a possibility.

    I would suggest she speak to student services/welfare (they're called different things) at her uni and ask for advice on how to find suitable housing. One room for two adults and a growing child isn't adequate.

    I did ask the landlord if they can go on the waiting list and she said they have to be referred by the Council first but my daughter and her partner are worried that if they do that they will be given a home on an estate because they only get 3 choices. My daughters partner comes from a family where they all have their own homes and that's what he's aiming for, he doesn't want to go into social housing unless it's absolutely necessary. I think maybe keep the boy in the cot and wait until he is starting to climb out and then maybe they won't have a choice.

    They don't want to claim benefits. He is seeing what pay rise he gets this year to see what extra money they will have to rent a place. My daughter graduates next year so will hopefully have a job at the end of her course but I have a feeling my grandson will need a bed by then.
  • System
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    My daughters partner comes from a family where they all have their own homes and that's what he's aiming for, he doesn't want to go into social housing unless it's absolutely necessary.


    but its ok to overcrowd the house they are living in and push Nana into another accommodation?
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  • Kimberley
    Kimberley Posts: 14,871 Forumite
    Judi wrote: »
    but its ok to overcrowd the house they are living in and push Nana into another accommodation?

    I never said they were pushing me out, it is my idea, I haven't even mentioned it them.
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