Friend been with boyfriend 5 1/2 years and not engaged

Waves_and_Smiles

I wouldn't get involved, really it is up to both of them to talk and work out what marriage means to them. I have been with my partner for 22 years and we have never got engaged but we are happy as things are. It is up to them to talk it through and discuss their own hopes for the future.

duchy

So she has said she'd like to get married...one day.
Has she actually said she'd like to be married to her current partner ....or that she'd like to get married soon ?

I agree it is none of your business though.....and if she wanted to discuss her situation with you -then she'd have done so.

If however as suggested the friend is actually you- then talk to your boyfriend about where he sees himself in a year...and in five years.....and take the conversation from there.....or simply propose yourself !

pawsies

5 1/2 years isn't that long compared to a lifetime of happiness together!!

Plenty of time to get married

glitter03

I have been with my partner for almost 11 years. We have two children and our own home. We are not married and its noone elses business if we choose to do so or not!

I have a friend who sometimes might jokingly say 'any chance of me being a bridesmaid yet?' but i doubt she would post on a forum about her worries for me not being married yet

Unless, Jenny?? Is that you?!

jellie

What would being engaged prove?
Why do you think it's so important that your friend is engaged?
What difference is you talking to her going to make?

jumpingjackd

I think its their business and if they are happy thats all that matters, why upset the apple cart lol

duchy

jellie wrote: »

What would being engaged prove?
Why do you think it's so important that your friend is engaged?
What difference is you talking to her going to make?

If the OP feels traditional ways matter-surely she should be talking to the boyfriend as her friend will obviously be waiting for a proposal rather than having an equal say in this rather 1950s timewarp the OP has apparently fallen into.

Most people however consider it to be more normal to be single than married at 25 -she's hardly on the shelf just yet :rotfl:

Kynthia

Maybe despite being together that long they feel a little young for marriage at 25. Maybe he's shy and not keen on a wedding day where he'd be centre of attention. Maybe they're waiting yo save enough for a wedding or a house deposit before getting married and don't want a long engagement.

Unless your friend talks to you then leave their relationship alone.

likelyfran

krlyr wrote: »

I think you should plan a surprise wedding, arrange for all his and her family to attend, buy her a wedding dress and then tell her you're taking her for a spa day. Once she's all relaxed and fresh faced from her spa treatments, you can use a taser to knock her out, put her in the wedding dress, and drive her to the church. Get someone to do the same with her boyfriend, wheel them down the aisle, and when they awaken, they can say their vows. It's what a good friend would do.

:D:D:beer:

Lily-Rose_3

Seems the 'friend' is probably the actual OP herself. I am under that impression anyway.

I think she is trying to fish to see what people think of her still not being engaged and having a date set for a wedding. If they're only 25 though, so what? That is still quite young. I was nearly 30 when I got married.