partners erection problem

ilace

hi all id really appreciate any advice you could all give give me with my problem.
here goes im in a fairly new relationship and have had sex with this guy several times to be blunt and to the point it just doent get hard and dose nothing for me at all. i really do like this guy and want this to work out but i need the sexual side of things to be good too
not really sure how to approch the subject with him or what to say?? any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.. ilace x

tiamai_d

Does he seem to enjoy it and ejaculate?

ilace

yes he seems to injoy it has problems with ejaculateing as well, beginning to think its something to do with me, never had any problems in past relationships though.. thanks ilace x

candygirl

How do you manage to have sex if it's not hard?i'm prob missing something here

ilace

sorry it dosent get fully hard and after a very limited time loses it all togetter which is very fustrating.

margaretclare

Is he by any chance a diabetic?

Margaret

dmg24

This is a medical issue, and therefore your partner needs to visit his GP. They will be quite used to dealing with the issue, and there is no need to be embarrassed.

Medical advice should not be given on the forum.

candygirl

ilace wrote: »

sorry it dosent get fully hard and after a very limited time loses it all togetter which is very fustrating.

Right i'm with you now hun.I agree it's a tricky one and he prob does need to go to the doc:o

Tom_Saunders

thankfully Ive never had this problem, probably the opposite which is just as bad.

However, why don't you buy a toy so when he goes home you can "enjoy" yourself.

It may be a concetration thing, I mean if he was suffering from premature ejaculation that's one thing but going limp all the time could be boredom or a tight foreskin. Hope this isn't to blunt a reply.

Happy humping x

ilace

i do hope its not bordom allready he wants to sleep with me a lot so i guess thats a good sign or he wouldnt bother?
anyway good tips to hurry things up befor he loses his erection?? id rather have shorter time but fully hard ,than longer time and soft.. thanks for all the replys guys ilace x

Rikki

Don't they say plenty of foreplay and not to rush into having full intercourse.Less pressure on him.
The more you and he focus on this problem the more likely it is to continue happening.
Back to basics and take things slowly. Penatration is not the be all and end all.