Grandparents rights to see grandchildren

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

well im afraid im one of those parents who are with holding access. There is no way, even if hell freezes over, i am letting my DD go near her fathers parents. DD is 2, we have lived in our house for over a year now, MIL has been once and FIL has never been. Its always us going over to theirs (they live 7 miles aay and they have their own car so no excuse) it all kicked off around DD's birthday over various arguements and ive had enough, Spoke to OH and he agrees with me that they shouldnt be around DD. If they take us to court they havent really got a leg to stand but if they should ever get access then we'd be emigrating too!

Zara33

mike.d. wrote: »

as i have fallen out with my daughter (over money )she will not let me see my granddaughter 1 year old who has stayed with me just about every sat since birth and i do not want too lose that dose anyone know if i can make a contact order application under section 10 of the 1989 children'sct ?

Contact Orders - section 8 Children Act 1989
These are orders that require the person with whom a child lives to allow that child to visit, stay or have contact with a person named in the order.
Orders continue until the child is 16 years. The court will only make contact orders for children over 16 years old in exceptional circumstances.
Contact can either be direct e.g. face-to-face meetings with a person or indirect e.g. by letter, video, exchange of Christmas cards etc.
Some orders will be very specific as to times, dates and arrangements for contact, other orders will be more open with detailed arrangements to be made between the parties by agreement.
These orders are not just obtained by parents for contact with their children, there can also be orders for contact between siblings or the child and wider family members.
Sometimes the order will give directions that the contact is to be supervised by a third person. The order may also only be for a specific period or contain provisions which operate for a specific period.
These are orders of the court and to not comply with them can be a contempt of court with serious consequences.
http://www.cafcass.gov.uk/the_law_about_children/contact_and_residence.aspx#contactorders

mrcow

mike.d. wrote: »

as i have fallen out with my daughter (over money )she will not let me see my granddaughter 1 year old who has stayed with me just about every sat since birth and i do not want too lose that dose anyone know if i can make a contact order application under section 10 of the 1989 children'sct ?

Well you can certainly try. As you've had frequent and demonstrable contact with your grandaughter since birth then you have a good argument to back your case. Have you seen a solicitor yet? If not, then it would be worth your while.

flippin36

Grandparents are not always the wise, well meaning people we hope them to be. Sometimes parents have to make difficult choices for the childrens welfare.

And sometimes parents are so full of hurt and spite that they use their kids to get back at someone - and that's terrible. I have seen both in my family.

red_devil

jimsmum wrote: »

My son still plays with her children, in my house, the park, school etc
I have asked for her not to smoke around my son and she still carried on so I had no choice not to take him to play at her house as I didn't fancy having my son on steroids again due to a bad chest caused by inhaling smoke.
So before you call me sad and petty again, next time think before you type as you do not know the full facts.:rolleyes:

I think you did right. Nobody in their right mind would want their child around smoke. She should respect it and hold off or give up!

jaxw17

flippin36 wrote: »

Grandparents are not always the wise, well meaning people we hope them to be. Sometimes parents have to make difficult choices for the childrens welfare.

And sometimes parents are so full of hurt and spite that they use their kids to get back at someone - and that's terrible. I have seen both in my family.

I can see both sides but in our case we have done nothing wrong we have had regular contact for 8 years and a good relationship with the mother until she met her latest partner. now she has cut off all access just before Christmas and has ignored any letter etc that I have sent.
We are heartbroken. I will see a solicitor but she does not work so will get help financially for legal costs the same won't apply to us.

bugbabe1970

My husband parents have only come to see their grandchildren twice in 15 years despite us visiting them when we can and trying all ways to get them involved. Ive given up. Very sad for my children and my husband!

snowmaid

Where do they live? Can they afford the travel? Not sure of the circumstances. However, I couldn't imagine not seeing my grandchild. He is the apple of my eye and I love to have him around.

bugbabe1970

We live in Wales and they live in Cornwall. And yes it is a long way I appreciate that. But they go and visit their daughter in Yorkshire at a drop of a hat. She doesn't have children!

I used to get very upset about it as I just cant understand why they wouldn't want to visit to see their grand children. But I suppose its their choice.

neneromanova

I keep my DD from her Bio grandparents but only because the Bio Grandfather saw her, said he'd make arrangments to see her but never did, then he saw me again and said things had happened and that he'll arrange to see her again. Never did. Therefore I have decided that she is better not seeing them as I can just see, in years to come, that they'll let her down. I mean her Bio Father hasn't even seen her! That says something about that family!