Failed at life

vanessav

It WILL get better, take an hour at a time. If your husband is 'unhappy with everything', you must not take responsibility for 'everything' - he has shared the marriage. You are incorrect to think that you ''have failed at everything'' and he ''has done nothing wrong''. People with depression often feel this way, but it is not true! And the Dr will have seen this before ((hugs)).

V_For_Verminator

For a long time I felt like I had failed at life. It turns out I was suffering from bipolar disorder which has had a profound impact on my life and continues to do so. It always will and I have a lifetime of medication - but I have support in place to ensure that it doesn't define me, just hinder me.

Depression and anxiety is serious, serious business. Get yourself to the doctors and get yourself assessed. You have failed at nothing - there's no rulebook to life.

SailorSam

This may be worth looking at if you have anxiety and depression problems.

www.getselfhelp.co.uk

rachiibell

I suffer from depression and anxiety too and I've found this blog post really helpful. It's really straight talking and focuses on being kind to yourself and taking it one day at a time. Feel free to PM me if you ever want to talk.

:grouphug:

Kayalana99

rachiibell wrote: »

I suffer from depression and anxiety too and I've found this blog post really helpful. It's really straight talking and focuses on being kind to yourself and taking it one day at a time. Feel free to PM me if you ever want to talk.

:grouphug:

Not a bad read but a swear word is blocked out of the link...easy to fill but it wont work otherwise.

rachiibell

Kayalana99 wrote: »

Not a bad read but a swear word is blocked out of the link...easy to fill but it wont work otherwise.

Oh I never even thought of that! Click the link and guess the swear word it is then!

beluga

Thanks everyone. Doctor has referred me for conselling, but not sure how long that will take. Told me to come in or go to A&E if I think I'll hurt myself. A positive step but no help to me right now.
He really is the only good thing in my life. Depression and anxiety have meant that I haven't worked since uni (I'm now 32). I have no source of income. I don't drive, and am too scared to go outside by myself. My family are unsupportive, and all my friends are joint friends. We did everything together. I really don't know what to do without him. I don't really want to die but I don't want to live this version of my life. I just want him back and for us to be happy again. Feeling rather pathetic right now, sorry for waffling.

Kayalana99

beluga wrote: »

Thanks everyone. Doctor has referred me for conselling, but not sure how long that will take. Told me to come in or go to A&E if I think I'll hurt myself. A positive step but no help to me right now.
He really is the only good thing in my life. Depression and anxiety have meant that I haven't worked since uni (I'm now 32). I have no source of income. I don't drive, and am too scared to go outside by myself. My family are unsupportive, and all my friends are joint friends. We did everything together. I really don't know what to do without him. I don't really want to die but I don't want to live this version of my life. I just want him back and for us to be happy again. Feeling rather pathetic right now, sorry for waffling.

I'm really no good with advice on these things but just keep thinking baby steps. The link that Rac put up is really worth a read. Are you really that scared to go outside? Could you perhaps build up i.e go sit in the garden for today...tomorrow perhaps a 5min walk..etc ? Just do something different. Be who you want to be.

rochja

Positive action:
Step 1. If you will not go out right now buy a treadmill online. Get it delivered. Get walking. Better still, get running.
Step 2. Get a nice friendly cat. I recommend a snowshoe. Commit yourself to caring for it for it's lifetime.
Step 3. Start keeping a diary or write a blog.
Step 4. Start baking. Cheap to do and the aromas will pick you up.
Step 5. Join a support group. Offer your home for regular meetings.
Step 6. On fair weather days throw all the windows open and make sure you sit/stand/eat/exercise in a sunny spot.
Good luck. You are going to need it. You are also going to get through it.

rochja

PS. PM at least 3 people a day and let them know how you are. Then ask them how they are.