Failed at life

beluga

I feel like a failure. I've failed everyone and everything. My husband was the only thing good in my life, and now I've failed him as well. He doesn't want to be with me anymore. I don't want to live anymore. Feel so guilty that I've let everyone down, and I don't want to hurt him, I love him so much.

Pathetic rant over, sorry.
Going to see the dr later on, not sure what they can do though.

Billie-S

Awwwww, I'm so sorry you feel so crappy. You haven't failed at anything. Your husband is the loser for ditching YOU.

Are there other underlying issues? Have you been suffering from depression? Tell us more. (If you want to...)

Have to go now, but let us know later how you got on at the doctors.

Morglin

beluga wrote: »

I feel like a failure. I've failed everyone and everything. My husband was the only thing good in my life, and now I've failed him as well. He doesn't want to be with me anymore. I don't want to live anymore. Feel so guilty that I've let everyone down, and I don't want to hurt him, I love him so much.

Pathetic rant over, sorry.
Going to see the dr later on, not sure what they can do though.

Take advice from your GP, and be kind to yourself, for a while.

It takes two to make a marriage, and two to break it.

A marriage ending is traumatic, and it can take a while to stand back and assess what went wrong.

Lin

beluga

Thanks for replying.
Yes I do suffer from depression and anxiety, I've been on medication for a couple of years now. I've been getting a bit better, but don't feel like myself. My husband hasn't done anything wrong, he's just very unhappy with everything right now. I know he feels awful. I feel like my life is over, he's everything to me. I've taken down a few pictures of us both where we look so happy, it made me cry just looking at them. I can't stop crying, am such a mess right now.
Sorry if this doesn't make much sense, I'm feeling shaky and light headed atm, made myself eat a piece of toast as didn't have anything yesterday. Sorry x

z.n

Just sending you a big hug. Good luck with the Doctor's.

margaretclare

I agree with the above.

Medication may help to lift your mood.

I don't think you can be said to have 'failed at life', not while you're still alive. You always have a second chance. Today is the start of the rest of your life.

Very best wishes

marisco_2

I am sorry to hear that you are feeling so awful. Do go and see your doctor and I hope he/she will be able to offer you appropriate support. It may also help you to contact the Samaritans. Their trained advisors can be invaluable at a time like this. The phone number for them is 08457 909090. Take care of yourself.

fivetide

It isn't an exam - there is nothing to fail at so you haven't failed at anything.

Hope the doc manages to help. Make sure you get some fluids like a good mug of tea and some food in you though. Not having any energy really won't help and you know that already.

Good luck!

cattie

Hopefully your GP will be able to refer you to a counsellor as it would probably be a big help to you to have somebody who you could really openly talk to.

Right now I understand that you feel that life just isn't worth it & that you are suffering the most dreadful pain & hard as it may seem, you will survive this, but for the moment, just take one day at a time.

Try to use all the resources you can at the moment to help you get through, whether it is medication, gp, counsellor, friends etc. But remember also that the Samaritans are there day and night if you really need to talk or even just to cry down the phone to somebody.

sunflower_2

hi OP

i am in pretty much the same situation - my hubby wasnt happy with me and left mid february

i feel like i have failed my children by not being able to be the wife my husband wanted.
(he wanted our home to be immaculate, but with 2 dogs and 3 kids it was a struggle. he would be so unhappy if there were visible dog hairs on furniture etc. i felt i couldnt do any more than i was doing as I was responsible for everything in the house).

it is a horrible feeling but i just wanted you to know you are not alone

i have good and bad days but it does get easier as time goes on

try to do things for yourself (i have been for a sunbed session today and feel loads better for it).

feel free to PM me if you want to chat

take care of you!!

egoode

beluga wrote: »

Thanks for replying.
Yes I do suffer from depression and anxiety, I've been on medication for a couple of years now. I've been getting a bit better, but don't feel like myself. My husband hasn't done anything wrong, he's just very unhappy with everything right now. I know he feels awful. I feel like my life is over, he's everything to me. I've taken down a few pictures of us both where we look so happy, it made me cry just looking at them. I can't stop crying, am such a mess right now.
Sorry if this doesn't make much sense, I'm feeling shaky and light headed atm, made myself eat a piece of toast as didn't have anything yesterday. Sorry x

I can't imagine anyone not crying when looking at photo's when you were happier and you will feel like this initially but it will get better over time.

However I'm sure your husband wasn't the only good thing in your life. It may be hard but try and look at other things in your life like friends, family, your health, something you love about where you live, etc. there is always something else in your life that's also good. Start with one or two things and then try to expand on those.