No children wedding

Sazzarella

Si_Clist wrote: »

Erm ... I hope the people who received the invites thought to turn them over ...

Considering there were venue details, running order and a map, not to mention the rsvp which was a tear off strip they had to fill out on the back; then I think it would be quite hard to miss.

whitewing

I am one of those people who needs things really spelling out, so I'd be happier with it specifically saying 'no children'.

Whether I would attend or not, would really depend on the situation a lot nearer the time because we both work full time and don't feel that we see enough of our children at times.

If children were invited, then we'd be planning to go as soon as we knew.

Jobseeeker

You write the names of those invited. It is bad manners to point out who is not invited on the invite.

Belle24

We received an invite recently with the following wording -

As much as we love to see your children laugh and play
It is our request that you please leave them at home for this day
We do hope you understand and respect our wishes
And join us to celebrate our day becoming Mr and Mrs

Invite was sent quite far in advance which has given us plenty of time to arrange childcare, made slightly harder due to it being a Friday wedding but we really want to attend so have been able and have been happy to make arrangements.

74jax

This thread has reminded me of a post when I was planning my wedding last year - I'll see if I can hunt it out. The Bride and Groom had wrote Mr x and Mrs y and family are invited and they turned up with about 12 members of their family including cousins......

ellay864

There's been loads of threads on the subject of child-free weddings and it always amazes me how so many people get so wound up about it. Fine, it might not be their choice but some seem ready to pillory people who dare to not want kids at their wedding! I'd say do make it clear - some people will assume that if they have young kids you'll just know they'll come with them. Better break etiquette than have the embarassment close to or on the day.
And I also agree with the comment about respecting the wishes of people not to attend without their kids. I've seen brides on here get really angry about the fact guests have declined despite being given loads of notice. Well if I'd been given 2 years notice when my kids were small it still wouldn't have made me want to leave them and stay away for 2 nights as some people might have to do. Your wedding is your priority but to a parent their child will be, so do it as you want but don't get all bridezilla all over it. Though if you do you'll be in the compnay of plenty of others here who have done

TopQuark

Our wedding, a month from yesterday, will be child-free. We made it clear to all the guests by writing it on the invitation. We don't have children yet and neither do our close relatives and thus are not interested in spending the most important day of our lives with other people's kids. Some people can't attend because of this and we are absolutely fine with it - our wedding is important to us but it's not a priority for most other people. If you say no children, then you must expect that some people won't be able to make it.

If anyone has an issue with the fact that children are not invited, TBH, I couldn't give a flying f**k! I'm already furious that a relative of OH's mum (who he hardly knows and I have never met in 8 years) replied to say he is coming with his 3 kids. I don't even want him there, let alone his kids! Effing cheek.

Sazzarella

TopQuark wrote: »

If anyone has an issue with the fact that children are not invited, TBH, I couldn't give a flying f**k! I'm already furious that a relative of OH's mum (who he hardly knows and I have never met in 8 years) replied to say he is coming with his 3 kids. I don't even want him there, let alone his kids! Effing cheek.

Why? It's you and OH's wedding, yous get to decide! Reply and tell them it's a no children affair!

TopQuark

Sazzarella wrote: »

Why? It's you and OH's wedding, yous get to decide! Reply and tell them it's a no children affair!

Oh make no mistake, he won't be bringing the kids! I don't even know him, so don't feel I could contact him really - it is for OH to do. I'm hoping that when he finds out the kids can't come, him and his wife won't be able to make it either. Fingers crossed!

I didn't even want to invite them in the first place since I don't know them from adam. But MIL to-be made a fuss and we compromised on inviting them but not others. MIL is contributing to the wedding financially and has helped a lot with admin stuff as it's taking place in her village in France and we live in Switzerland. So it's a bit difficult to be honest. It's not just the cost, I don't want to feel like a stranger at my own wedding!!

whitewing

I have to say that it was the people I didn't know very well (family friends and relatives) who made the wedding for me - they were so excited about it, so pleased to see us in person and see how happy we were etc.