Cheapest way to get married

Idiophreak

tara747 wrote: »

Each to their own, absolutely. We are all entitled to our own spending priorities - and our own opinions.

And when I hear of someone spending £30K on their wedding and spending the next 2-3 years justifying it all over MSE, I think ROTFL. :rotfl:

For every one post on here "justifying" an average-cost wedding, you'll get 20 posts on here "bragging" that their wedding cost £200 30 years ago and it was amazing...their love is so much truer because it cost less...anyone who spends more is a moron etc etc...out of curiosity, what do you think when you read those?

JIL

It should be up to the happy couple how they wish to marry. If they want to spend £125 or £125,000 the choice is theirs. I think when I married I was too influenced by my parents and his parents. If I was to marry knowing how I feel now it would be what we wanted with no outside influences. I may even have ran away to Gretna green.
Enjoy whatever you decide to do.

valk_scot

Idiophreak wrote: »

We spent more than 18k. We'd already bought a house. I suppose we could have overpaid the mortgage, or topped up our pensions, or dabbled in stocks and shares....instead, we threw a massive party for all of our family and friends, declared our love for each other and spent a month in the States celebrating.

If it means a couple of miserable scrooges on the internet call me bonkers...well, I can live with that.

If I had 18k that I really didn't need I'd like to hope I'd give at least some of it to a worthy charity rather than spend it all on a party, posh frock and a holiday. Spread all that love around a bit?


ETA: Actually I have a suggestion. Why not bankroll the clearly cash strapped OP £125 for her wedding licence? Bit of karmic balance to your huge bash, perhaps?

Lovelyjoolz

My OH and I have been looking into this and the cheapest wedding we can have in Cardiff is £119, so about the same.

This is in the register office with just us, the registrar and 2 witnesses. Which is fine, but it's only available for 1 hr a day Monday to Wednesday, so there's a long waiting list.

I'm happy to just rock up, grab two unsuspecting strangers and get it over and done with. It's OH who wants to actually invite people!

The next option up is £214 for a room for 60 people, so my 20 people max guest list would rattle around in there looking a bit sad :rotfl:

Why we can't just go to a solicitors office and sign a piece of paper is beyond me.

Brighton_belle

valk_scot wrote: »

If I had 18k that I really didn't need I'd like to hope I'd give at least some of it to a worthy charity rather than spend it all on a party, posh frock and a holiday. Spread all that love around a bit?


ETA: Actually I have a suggestion. Why not bankroll the clearly cash strapped OP £125 for her wedding licence? Bit of karmic balance to your huge bash, perhaps?

Why is his life out of 'karmic balance' anyway - he spent money he could afford that will have provided employment for many other people - that's how our economy works.
The circulation of money is rather vital to our well being.

tillyenna

I love all the people on here saying 'if you want to spend no money on your wedding, just do that'


I'd love to spend little-to-no money on our wedding. Just the church, the ceremony, me and my (future) husband. I don't think my mother would ever speak to us again, neither would his - as we have decided, we're not spending 5K on a wedding, we're spending 5K on keeping our mothers happy(ish) - totally worth it.


For those of you who believe that a marriage is just about two people - wow, I'd love to have families as relaxed as yours!

Gloomendoom

Our wedding didn't cost much. However, the party afterwards cost several thousand pounds, not all of it from our pockets.

I don't regret a penny of it... apart from the overpriced wedding rip-off cake (that I didn't actually pay for.)

seven-day-weekend

I would consider if very sad if your family didn't speak to you again just because you didn't have the wedding THEY wanted.

tayforth

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I would consider if very sad if your family didn't speak to you again just because you didn't have the wedding THEY wanted.

I agree. Surely each couple should be left in peace to decide what they want for their day, and not pressured to fit in with what their families want?

Idiophreak

valk_scot wrote: »

If I had 18k that I really didn't need I'd like to hope I'd give at least some of it to a worthy charity rather than spend it all on a party, posh frock and a holiday. Spread all that love around a bit?

Excuse me, but where did I say I don't give any of my money to charity?

I do my bit, thanks very much...and consider my karma slate pretty clear.

If you're going to try and make me feel guilty for spending some of my own money on a wedding, on a holiday or on anything I choose, come to that, you can go romance yourself.