Do you reckon he's having me on/trying to do me over?

yvonne13_2

OP can you hear yourself? If a friend of yours was in the same situation as you what would you advise?

Okay lets break this down.....Boyfriend/whatever joins sex site to meet random strangers for god knows what yet you allow him to do that hence you still being with him. Are you sending him mixed messages? I think possibly yes as it's more than likely hes still doing this under the sly.

Boyfriend/whatever went to sort out a mortgage ON HIS OWN yet he tells you what he wants as you were'nt there to verify any type of conversation. (remember him hiding the sex site things). Same said boyfriend/whatever managed to get a mortgage only in his name meaning his wage can pay the full mortgage yet wants you to pay half!!!!!!

First of all you have to put your children and yourself first. Get down to that bank and get yourself sorted with your own mortgage, you need something that is yours that you can pass down to your children. This man does not love you nor does he respect you. Why should you pay his mortgage under the pretence of marriage and anytime you bring up anything legal he makes excuses to kick off...Is this how little you think of yourself????

If this man trully loves you he will have no issue with you buying your own property. Sorry to be sharp but sometimes we need it.

P.S don't marry him h'es not for you.

busiscoming2

I agree with the other posters - the future doesn't sound very promising if you stay with him.

Why weren't you there when he went to sort out the mortgage? We have a joint mortgage and I wasn't working. It probably depends on the lender and I am going back 16 years, so it may be different more recently.

yvonne13_2

OP have you been married before or is your username a coincidence? Dreaming of being married to that man is just that a dream.

HPoirot

He's doing you over. Start finding excuses as to why you can't pay towards the mortgage this month etc. Play him at his own game, find excuses. Men like this get cocky with mugging you off the more you let it happen. Once you have a couple of months saved up, put a deposit on a rental and RUN.

yvonne13_2

Sorry OP but I've just seen your other post you wrote today saying your going on holiday with your boyfriend to Thailand. I wish I would've read it first before commenting on this one and to be honest I'm now sideing with your boyfriend as your other posts basically saying your spending habits are out of control.

Therefore I will not comment further on your post as it seems your boyfriend was right not to put your name on anything.

Oh and you forgot on another post you clearly said you were working when the mortgage was taken out. I dont know if you lied about your boyfriend being on a sex site but if you did that is very very low.

bagpussbear

MrsKrepsly wrote: »

Basically in the early days of our relationship my partner signed up to casual sex sites, dating and chat sites and was actively messaging people and trying to arrange dates and sex meets etc. This was after he'd met my children and we were supposedly exclusive. He aologised but it happened twice after.

Forgetting all the other stuff about the house for a sec, why on earth would you want to be with, let alone marry, someone like that? No wonder he is playing you for a fool, he knows he can mess around like that 3 times and yet still you're there

From what you've described, I don't believe he has any intention of marrying you OP (sorry). Get out there and find someone nicer for you.