Do you reckon he's having me on/trying to do me over?

Jessica.langlands

I agree with fivetide. See a solicitor, cut your losses and run. Nobody needs that kind of selfish behaviour in their lives.

marisco_2

I would suggest that you go along and seek proper legal advice. Then you can make carefully considered decisions about how your proceed from here. To be honest I am rather surprised that you are still even contemplating marrying a guy, who can turn round and say that he needs real proof that you get on, and who is so dismissive of your feelings over something so important.

fabforty

MrsKrepsly wrote: »

Money-Maker he never used to be like this. I'm only just coming to terms with what a b*s*ard he can be.

The fact that he signed up to casual sex sites and was actively messaging others while in a relationship with you, not once but three times, suggests that you have always known what he was. Perhaps it's time to face up to it and cut your losses.

tea_lover

Even if he isn't trying to con you, the problem is that you think he could. There's clearly no trust in this relationship at all. It doesn't sound like there's much respect or support either.

I think you know the answer to this one already. Take care x.

BitterAndTwisted

He's not trying to "do you over" as he's already done it! Both about the sex-sites (three times!) and the mortgage.

If you're willing to tolerate having been lied to you're laying the foundations for more and more lies.

I know what I'd be doing and it wouldn't be fretting over a paltry two grand.

Mirno

When my ex moved in with me, she didn't contribute to the house, but I said she should pay the "fair" amount into a savings account. If we had married it would have been our house and our money, as it turned out we split up, and it was my house and her money. It kept things clean.
(I am so romantic when it comes to personal finances.)

The fact he's accepting your money, but not giving you security shows a lack of respect, a lack of fairness, and a lack of decency.
If you want to stay with this person (from your description you shouldn't) you need to sort something legal out ASAP.
If you don't want to stay with him you want to sort something legal out ASAP too!

Mirno

CRANKY40

Stop paying his mortgage for him and start saving your money instead. That should fix your savings account....

thorsoak

As Cranky says - stop paying the mortgage, start saving your money in an account in your name only, so that you can get your own home - on your own!

chelseablue

CRANKY40 wrote: »

Stop paying his mortgage for him and start saving your money instead. That should fix your savings account....

Yes thats what Id do.

Stop making any contribution to the mortgage (that your not named on anyway) and put the money in an account in your name

CH27

I'd stop paying anything towards the mortgage.
Why are you still with him let alone contemplating marrying him?