What would you do RE Friends

MidLifeCrisis_3

duchy wrote: »

Ugh
What is it with these kind of women.
There's one in a group I know and I know she played all kinds of mind games with another woman excluding her from stuff and then insisting she'd told her about it. She was really trying to mess with her head. The other women in the group are all lovely and seem to work around her but I really don't understand why they put up with it. They must see it . A power game of a really insecure woman I suppose. I just keep clear I can't be bothered with such nonsense.

That's plain evil and I agree I don't understand why the other women put up with it either. In my case I know one of the women discussed it with the others as they felt bad, but none of them could bring themselves to say anything to Hyacinth about it and so carried on. Pack mentality fuelled by insecurity, but hard to keep clear when you have to see them in the playground and your children are friends with some of theirs, luckily not with Hyacinth's.

You are so right about playground 'ma'fia, I thought it was bad enough as a child, but it feels so much worse as a mum!

This sort of thing can lead to depression as Duchy says so I hope OP you find a way to resolve it and find some friends worthy of you.

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Ask yourself, are they REAL friends. As in do you really connect with them and want to spend time with them, common interests (aside from kids).

Or is it just FOMO? Fear of missing out.

If honestly it's just because you 'want' to be asked out, and don't worry there are thousands who feel the same way, then just get on with your life and focus on people who want you in their lives.

Life is too short to chase anyone, let them be. Do your own things, stop looking at what they do or don't do on facebook. Get out there and do things that make you happy.

Women, unfortunately can be the worst friends. They can also be the best. You'll find your own way.