Watching the Tommy Cooper Story - has anyone accepted their husband's lover?

fivetide

It isn't for me but there is an element of social conditioning at play I guess. Some cultures wouldn't find it an issue for a man to have more than one wife.

Personally, I find it a bit sexist though since it doesn't seem to work the other way around.

Corelli

I don't have a problem at all with a more open relationship. My women friends and I have often talked about how it is female friends that stick by you when the going gets really tough and handle the blood and !!!!!!.

We have said how much better it would be to live as a group of women with our children and have visiting men friends, shared or otherwise.

Personally, I'd like to have a loose relationship with someone else as well as my partner. I think one to one relationships just get too intense so having other people in the equation makes it more comfortable. We used to have a looser relationship with other people too but now ... ill health and children, one with Asperger's syndrome, just don't give time or energy for relationships.

My great aunt had an interesting history that no-one will ever know the details of. She was married to one chap who went off to the first world war. There he made great friends with someone who coincidentally had the same surname.

This new friend came home with the husband and lived with my great aunt and husband. Somehoe it came to pass that she divorced the first husband and married the friend. This bit of the family story puxzzled me - did ordinary working class people get divorced just after the WW1?

ETA The three of them lived in the same house all this time. Apparantly with bedroom swapping going on when she moved from one man to the other.

Anyway, the story continues that eventually she got fed up with husband number two and the two friends ended up sharing a bedroom and leaving her on her own.

Interpret this story as you will - I certainly have some theories about the relationship between husbands number one and two.

jaylee3

No. I would not tolerate a man having another woman as well as me. Like hell I would. I have never, and WILL never believe in open relationships. I don't share ANYone and have too much respect for myself to put up with that sh*t. And ultimately, someone will get jealous.

I can't see any MAN putting up with his wife sh@gging another man, and staying in the relationship, happily putting up with it. Amongst other things, he would be a laughing stock amongst his mates.

BrassicWoman

many people are poly; at least, more than you might think. there are even large social gatherings. note: not the same as orgies or wife swapping!

the main thing is agreement and honesty in whatever you (all?) agree to do.

Elsewhere

Somewhat off topic - I only saw a trailer. His wife - or maybe mistress replied sharply to him and he said something like "Don't you EVER raise your voice to me."

OK, I know this is dramatic license but if a man ever said that to me I'd do my best to kick him in the balls and then out the door. Were people ever that sexist?