Paying Maintenance For Someone Elses Children!!

petethepilot_2

I need some advice please, I think im in the correct area,

In 2005 i seperated from my then partner after she had an affair and a child was conceived, at the time i thought the child was mine and had my name put on the birth certificate, after a few moths she admitted to the affair and made it clear the child wasnt mine, i left and the other guy moved in and he made it clear he was the childs father, (he is a heroin addict and the child was born with deformaties due to this) and took over as the father,
Then in 2007 i discovered that even though my ex and her smackhead fella were living together, she had made a claim for child support from me!! i was paying for his kid! i contacted the CSA and thats when the fun started,
Too cut a long story short, since 2007 i have been lied to, decieved, treated like a moron and fed false information by the CSA, i eventually wrote to my local MP to ask for help and the CSA have now got their asses into gear and are arranging DNA testing, it has taken the CSA 7years, a letter from my MP and numerous complaints to actually do something, i have recieved a letter from the CSA admitting that i have been treated horrendously and that they are at fault, they even offered me £50 compensation for all my trouble, which is a joke,
i am now waiting for the DNA testing and hoping that the mother actually goes through with it and then i will claim back all the money that has been wrongly taken from me.

Then i intend to sue the CSA for the way that i have been treated by them, my life has been on hold for 7 years and i have been fed false information, lied to deliberately and verbally abused by the temps that work there,

Any advice on how to go about taking proceedings against the CSA? i have a letter which they admit to everything i have stated and they offered me £50 compensation, so basically they have admitted liability, has anyone else sued the CSA?

BitterAndTwisted

Good luck with claiming back the money that may have been wrongly taken from you.

Good luck with sueing the CSA as I think you're going to need it. If they have admitted liability in writing I'd take that to a solicitor asap. Getting compensation from them might be an uphill struggle as I believe you will need to have proof of your actual monetary losses in a civil court rather than damages for emotional stress or similar.

That poor child

itsanne

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

That poor child

This.

But if everything petethepilot has said is true, he has been badly treated too and I can understand why he feels aggrieved.

sulkisu

Even worse if OP turns out to be the biological father after all, which appears to be a possibility in spite of his ex's claims.

meritaten

I would think it would hinge on the DNA testing. if you are the father then its only right you pay.
however - if DNA testing proves you aren't the father - then I would get a good solicitor.

FatVonD

I'm sure not everyone will agree but if it was me, and I can can imagine that suing them is going to cost a fortune, I would try one of the 'no win, no fee' outfits.

petethepilot_2

Thanks for all your posts, useful advice, appreciated

As for the possibility of me actually being the father, then that would certainly put a spanner in the works, i honestly dont know what to say about that, they have certainly gone through a lot of trouble to convince me im not the father and the complications when the child was born are generally associatiated with heroin use,
But,If the child was mine then thats a differant matter,its difficult to put into words the devotion i would give a child but i would make sure they had everything they ever wanted, needed, asked for or ever dreamed about, no worries there,

But i thought i had a child an they took that away, so thats probably why i hoard such anger about the situation,

I'm !!!!ed off and want them to know how much.

sulkisu

petethepilot wrote: »

Thanks for all your posts, useful advice, appreciated

As for the possibility of me actually being the father, then that would certainly put a spanner in the works, i honestly dont know what to say about that, they have certainly gone through a lot of trouble to convince me im not the father and the complications when the child was born are generally associatiated with heroin use,
But,If the child was mine then thats a differant matter,its difficult to put into words the devotion i would give a child but i would make sure they had everything they ever wanted, needed, asked for or ever dreamed about, no worries there,

But i thought i had a child an they took that away, so thats probably why i hoard such anger about the situation,

I'm !!!!ed off and want them to know how much.

They may well be due to his heroin use, but there are probably other possibilities as well. For example, your ex might also have used heroin (even just occasionally, without your knowledge) which could have caused these abnormalities, or it could be just one of those things. The problem is that if you were having unprotected sex (no more than a couple of weeks either side of the date of conception - sorry to be blunt), then the chances are that even your ex doesn't know which of you is the biological father. She wouldn't be the first woman to claim that the father of a child is the man that she wants to be with. Personally I would make getting a DNA test the priority, regardless of suing the CSA or reclaiming the money, and then plan your next move.


I'm not sure which outcome would be better to be honest, but I hope it works out for you.

petethepilot_2

Very good point, at the moment i am waiting for the forms etc.. from the CSA as they are arranging the DNA test, i just hope now that she actually goes through with it, i have to pay for it but if she doesnt turn up then i am out of pocket a few hundred pound and then what happens? i know the important thing is the DNA results but if she refuses to go through with it where do i stand?

dandelionclock30

What birth deformities can heroin cause if the father is the user?

Person_one

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

What birth deformities can heroin cause if the father is the user?

Took the words out of my mouth.


I know that babies can be born with an addiction and other complications if the mother is a heroin user, I've never heard of the father's drug habits having an impact.