very scary lodger:please help!

maninthestreet

Take the fuse out of the plug for the washing machine, then tell her the machine is broke, and you cant afford to get it repaired or buy a new one until next month (when she's gone).

ceridwen

Could you maybe go for a midway option - like, as tactfully as poss, say you unexpectedly need her room in 7 days time for .... (some sort of emergency situation). I might, for instance, use some sort of friend who is an escapee from being a battered wife scenario and will be "making a run for it" when hubbie goes off on business - and, of course, you will need to change the locks so she feels safe (after all you lent her a key briefly a bit back and... who knows). When lodger does go - then do actually change the locks.

clutton_2

i would not mention the OCD - she may react badly, and sadly, once she has moved out it will not be your concern.

MortgageMamma

use her to get your house absolutely spotless before she goes.

My best friend is like this, and she cleans my house all the time and I'm so bloody grateful sometimes!

Dithering_Dad

Why not just be straight with her, I find that even nutters are reasonable if you deal with them in a reasonable and honest way (well, mostly).

Just tell her that it's not working out for either of you and that perhaps it would be better for you both if she found alternative accomodation sooner rather than later. Also tell her that you will refund her remaining rent and deposit. You might even offer a set amount of cash to go towards her removal costs - this depends on how desperate you are to be rid of her.

I'm sure she is as keen to go as you are for her to leave, and may think she has to stay because she will lose her rental money if she doesn't stay on.

Good luck!!

Alan_M_2

Rent the film "As good as it gets" with Jack Nicholson, and ask Her if she recognises any of the behavior....

(Is there a tongue in cheek smiley?)

GingerSte

I'm surprised nobody's mentioned it yet...

Gross her out. If she's worried about an apple core in the wrong bin, then I'm sure you could think of a few "interesting" ways to encourage her to leave. (I'm thinking dirty socks in the lounge, biting your nails, smelly food in the fridge etc)

Dithering_Dad

biting your TOE nails should do the trick...

PJD

grownupgirly wrote: »

thanks, seven-day-weekend!

the big question remains, how to broach the OCD issue? Would she 'receive it' from me? Hmmmm.

It's not your problem, or your responsibility, as a landlord, to provide social care or selp help.

I would either Take Dithering Dad's advice & suggest that it's not working, - or grin & bear it/her for a month. If I was to take the second option, so as to not rock the boat, - I would have friends around mosts night / be out most of the time, / do lots of overtime etc! - time will fly far quicker that way. Also have a few pairs of earplugs to hand.

When sharing a house with someone, - there will always be compromises. You are living with someone else. Selfish, unreasonable nutters like her should live on their own.

A reply quoting the tenancy agreement in regards to the washing machine is absolutely pathetic. It's a reasonable request, and she reacted unreasonably (to put it lightly).

Good luck throughout the next month, - I hope thing go reasonably smoothly & time goes reasonably quickly for you, - by which time you'll see the back of her & never have to cross her path again.

pinkshoes

I would just live normally, listen to your music when you want, and don't make any effort to be extra quiet, as she's obviously not that bothered about noise if she plays music at 11.30pm! I wouldn't go as far as leaving your dirty undies on the floor (!), but it's your home, so you should feel free to live as you pleased.

I lived with a nutcase for 6 months, and spent most my time out! She used to be fine one minute, then the next minute she started screaming at me infront of the other 2 housemates that i had no respect for anyone because I'd only hoovered the house twice that week... (the house was immaculate). Complete looney, either bi-polar, or had gone a bit funny from smoking too much weed in her youth!