Hurt by reaction - NEVER AGAIN!!

ilikewatch

I must admit, I have never been given a home made gift that I would actually use, but appreciate the thought behind them and always send a thank you letter before I dispose of the gift.

DigForVictory

Of all the folk I feel sorry for, it's the little girl I feel sorriest for. We don't know she doesn't like the bag, just that she won't be seen with it in public.

What Mommy Dearest plans for it (etsy? ebay? please-not-the-bin?) I shudder to think, & for sheer rudeness she takes the gimbling biscuit.

For OP, I offer utter sympathy, comforted only by the knowledge that the dreadful manners shown will spare her any obligation to find a present Ever Again.

ilikewatch

DigForVictory wrote: »

Of all the folk I feel sorry for, it's the little girl I feel sorriest for. We don't know she doesn't like the bag

Except that her mum stated that the little girl "only really likes shop bought things" and this was home made...

I can't think of any gender and age group more heavily influenced by the media and their peers than secondary school age girls, I think it's perfectly likely that a girl this age would have issues being seen by her friends with any accessory that they might deem "uncool". I certainly know that a colleagues 12 year old daughter has never even used the £120 smartphone that she got for Christmas as it would be too embarassing if her friends saw her with a phone that wasn't made by Apple - she's happier to not have a mobile phone at all than be seen with something so "tragic".

Mum could certainly have been more tactful and not mentioned the bag at all, but maybe it was a clumsy attempt to manage the OP's expectations about seeing the bag being used.

midnightraven3

kaya wrote: »

Wow, you should be gratefull if this winds you up, you could have real problems instead!

i must be very lucky as i have never come across such a rude post on MSE

snuffing out someone else's candle doesnt make yours burn any brighter you know

mrcow

Wow - that's unbelievable. My daughters love bags and would have loved this.

As for having real problems.......well actually most of us do have real problems. (Some more than most!) Doesn't mean to say that we can't be upset by the small stuff too!

Katiehound

kaya wrote: »

Wow, you should be gratefull if this winds you up, you could have real problems instead!

Uncalled for rude comment... hey, a little bit like the ungrateful mother here!

When someone has gone to a lot of trouble to make a gift especially and they are snubbed of course it hurts. It was creating a problem out of nothing.

But then of course we all know "There's nowt so queer as folk"

VintageBelle

People like her are what's wrong with this world!!!!!!!!!!!! Consumeristic and superficial so the poor kid will grow up the same!!!!!!!!!!!! How would people like that survive if (god forbid) there was another world war/some large scale disaster that meant we all had to make do and mend?! I'm so angry on your behalf.

shell1999

I think what you did was lovely and thoughtful, the mother sounds like a vile creature.

Fredula

People like her are the reason I don't make homemade gifts for people these days (Except bread)

hettiecarro

Kaya - my real problems include multiple sclerosis and an autistic Grandson - Feel better now?