13 Year old Come to stay - UPDATE

thorsoak

I'm so happy to read your post - I remember your earlier thread and your struggle with your young relative. It's still early days, but you have made such progress in changing her attitude - just by being yourselves - you've given her a settled, loving environment, you've given her attention and approval - and disapproval where necessary and that's wonderful!

She is changing her attitudes - and as she grows and blossoms more she will see for herself that the 24 year old is not acting in her best interests, only in his own twisted interests.

Are you getting some financial support for her now? I do hope so!

Looking forward to more updates, as and when you are able to do so.

{{hugs}} to a brave family x

itsanne

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kbh4031, I am very, very pleased things have improved so much. I was worried that everything had the potential to go completely pear shaped and delighted that it's working out. Hopefully she'll eventually appreciate all you have done for her. Well done to you and your family!

The boyfriend situation is ridiculous, but hopefully it will slowly fizzle out. It's ludicrous that nothing can be done.

Thank you for updating.

dancingfairy

It's so nice to read the update. I remember how much soul searching went on at the begining and how concerned you were about her but also about your own children.
I'm so pleased how more settled things are. What you are doing is obviously working and she is obviously feeling a lot better about herself.
I can't believe nothing can be done about the 24 year old but I hope like the others in time, that she realises he is holding her back and not helping her.
Big hugs to all involved.
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gunsandbanjos

I read your original thread and I wish there were more people like you in the world.

Hats off to you for sticking by this troubled young girl and helping her along her long road to recovery.

Hopefully in time she'll see this guy for what he is, and realise she's better than that.

jenhug

I am so happy to hear your update, I often think of you all.

j.e.j.

I didn't see the original thread but it sounds like the girl is turning her life around, with your help, OP :beer:

If she's having sexual relations with a 24 year old he most certainly can be charged, I think the Police are fobbing you off there. But maybe you should just let it run its course.

Make sure she doesn't get in with a crowd of wrong'uns at school, either, and undo all the good work you've done.

whitewing

I remember your original thread and am delighted with your update. Well done to you all - the family time you experience will remain with her well into her future, even if there are a few wobbles.

pollypenny

Oh, that's great news! I remember your thread and your worries!

Looks like knowing that someone cares is helping her. As said, she will probably find that boys in school are attractive, as well as safer.

marisco_2

kbh4031 wrote: »

We are very proud of her achievements so far and hope that she continues to be as good as she can be.

Such an inspiring thread. Lovely to read your update and learn that things are progressing well OP. All children deserve the right to grow up in a healthy environment, where they can reach their full potential and turn into confident and well rounded adults. You should be as proud of yourself for providing that as you are of this young lady.

Colin2511

Well Done You ! - I remember reading this, and thought at the time you were an amazing strong lady to do this- I am so pleased that she has turned a corner and is now just a "normal" teenager with the "normal" mood swings - you should be VERY proud of yourself, you have given hope to someone who did not have any, and that takes real guts !