Marking mothers day for a bereaved Mum

growler834

I'm sorry for your loss. Your SIL is blessed with a very loving & thoughtful family - I'm sure she will take heart from your support tomorrow, no matter what you decide to do. Love & best wishes to you for Mother's Day.

Angie

fabforty

heartbrokenaunt wrote: »

No, nothing needs to involve him. He walked away as soon as he found out his son wouldn't be perfectly healthy and hasn't had the decency to contact SIL once since. So nothing will involve him.

Thanks for all the wonderful ideas. Of course we have spoken to SIL to see how she wants the day to go and whether she wanted to mark it at all, which she does. Hence the struggle of trying to get the right balance.

I think we've worked out what to do now with all your great ideas.

That is sad - I'm sorry, I wasn't trying to offend.


I have just Googled ' mothers day cards for bereaved mothers' and it brought up a number of sites which deal with this very topic. There are cards available, although too late for this year but perhaps next year. There are also a number of websites and blogs from mothers in SIL position, with ideas of how to mark the day. Fo some reason, I can't copy links but if you get the chance it might be worth doing as I have done, there might be something helpful x.

MidLifeCrisis_3

So sorry for your loss. There are some lovely ideas here, especially the bracelet, locket, candle and, if done in the right way, a balloon.

My friend's first baby was stillborn, and I think it was for what would have been his first birthday that our other friend adopted a zoo animal, that had great personal meaning for them, in his memory. Ten years has come and gone and she still thinks the world of this, renews every year and takes his younger brother and sister to the zoo in his memory.

I'd looked into naming a star or a rose in his memory, but as I gave birth within a few weeks of her stillborn baby, and now had a thriving nearly one year old, I decided I wouldn't because I didn't know if she'd be horrified with me and it was understandably a very difficult time for her when I had my baby and when he turned one. I did let her know I was thinking of her on his birthday and I sometimes wish I had foreseen how well she took the adoption gift. Even now every year I never let his birthday or anniversary go without letting her know I am thinking of them all.

MLC

Shushannah

I lost my youngest son earlier his year. My neighbour has just brought a homemade quiche for me.

It is nice to know people care.