Marking mothers day for a bereaved Mum

Woolwich_Kim

I'm in a similar postition. My friend gave birth very prematurely to twins and one passed after only a fortnight. The other still in a incubator.

I've got her a card from her child that's in incubator. I did think about the one who's passed but I didn't want the one who's here to always be living in the shadow of their twin.

Where my friend is different is that this sunday she and her hubby will be in hospital as they are every day anyway so there's no chance of being invited out and I'd guess the neo natal place will mark mothers day in their own way.

DigForVictory

Could I suggest planting bulbs? They're little time bombs of hope. You don't see them so much of the time & yet year after year they keep popping up bright & friendly. Even as a reminder of a painful time, they are also little flags that for a few weeks, we were here & glorious.

Probably not The Best Time of Year to plant them but really, even a bulb in a pot can usually go outside after a bit.

For the wee lad, I'd ask the council if you could give bulbs to be plants in a park he loved, and for the stressed mother, I'd give bulbs, a box of chocolates & delivery pizza vouchers.

(One grief stricken family I know admitted to spending the first fraught week living on chocolates - they just didn't want to go into the kitchen and cook, or wash up, so now when there's a choice I take chocolates every time.)

fivetide

As above.

If flowers aren't working for her, why not plant a tree?

The dinner might be one for another year. It is generally rammed, it will be full of people with kids enjoying the day with their mum etc - just to way to remind her of things she won't have with the poor wee chap.

Tiddlywinks

Kernow666 wrote: »

i'm quite famous........reem or what

What a thoroughly obnoxious post on a thread about bereavement.

Shame on you.

heartbrokenaunt

fivetide wrote: »

As above.

If flowers aren't working for her, why not plant a tree?

The dinner might be one for another year. It is generally rammed, it will be full of people with kids enjoying the day with their mum etc - just to way to remind her of things she won't have with the poor wee chap.

We will have a quiet meal at home, definitely not a meal out anywhere. Just the closest family. We're all really struggling at the moment because of the extra close bond we all had with him after the struggles he faced in life. So it will be a day spent together helping each other through.

Lots of good ideas in this thread, thank you. Plenty to think about.

jenhug

how about a little silver bracelet with a special charm?

Tiddlywinks

jenhug wrote: »

how about a little silver bracelet with a special charm?

This is a lovely idea... Maybe adding a charm each year.

Or, a locket with a picture of her son?

surveyqueenuk

Post 12 reported. This is not a time for jokes. OP, I wish you and your family love and strength this weekend x

bagpuss38

I dont really have anything to add, just wanted to say so sorry for you loss xxx

fivetide

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

What a thoroughly obnoxious post on a thread about bereavement.

Shame on you.

Whislt I agree I decided to simply ignore it. Wasn't worth paying attention to. With that in mind, you might want to edit the quote as you have essentially repeated the rather disgraceful comment (it's a bit like quoting spammers as it only spreads the message).

As I said though. Totally agree with your words.