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The final straw....
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Why don't you just sit down and talk through your problems like a normal couple.
You've only just married him "for better or worse" and you're going to give up on that promise already? You have two young children that have a right to be with their father. You owe it to them to at least try and work this out.
Living off benefits as a lonely single parent is no walk in the park. It should not be the default preferred option as soon as the problems hit."One day I realised that when you are lying in your grave, it's no good saying, "I was too shy, too frightened."
Because by then you've blown your chances. That's it."0 -
Why do people get married if they're not 100%.
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Buzzybee90 wrote: »Why do people get married if they're not 100%.
Lots of reasons... they don't think they're good enough for anyone else; they get carried away with the idea of a big day and being centre of attention; they think it will fix all the things that are wrong; who knows? but it happens all the time."One day I realised that when you are lying in your grave, it's no good saying, "I was too shy, too frightened."
Because by then you've blown your chances. That's it."0 -
Lots of reasons... they don't think they're good enough for anyone else; they get carried away with the idea of a big day and being centre of attention; they think it will fix all the things that are wrong; who knows? but it happens all the time.
there are 101 reasons why people get married.0 -
The house rental contract is over in terms of its fixed period and all thats needed to leave is a months notice.
Just to clarify to those that are raising these points, I have spoken to him regarding the problems we have been to couple counselling and still here I am. Now this is not something I have taken lightly and yes I went through with the wedding but that was for my reasons and I wont discuss that.
We were already married when I made the promise to myself re his job this will be job number 4 in last 12 months alone.
My idea of being a single parent doesnt actually include me living off benefits as I am employed as I said and would continue to do so once I got my childcare sorted and in place.
Like I have said previously there is more to our problems than I have stated and I wasnt looking for marital advice but advice in terms of who I should be speaking to if I opted to end my marriage, since previous break ups have never involved children or joint tenancy agreements.
I know its easy to attack but since I didnt list all the faults then I dont blame anyone for jumping to conclusions. This is a last resort for me not me jumping ship at the first sign of trouble.0 -
Well, aren't you the little delight?
You're married for better and worse, richer and poorer. In one post you say he's a "good dad" and in another you make threats to mutilate him should he apply for child residency. From what I can see if anyone deserves better, it's him.2018 totals:
Savings £11,200
Mortgage Overpayments £5,5000 -
shiningfaery wrote: »
My idea of being a single parent doesnt actually include me living off benefits as I am employed as I said and would continue to do so once I got my childcare sorted and in place.
It's really tough.
Do you have family support too? You're really going to need it. If you're working and single then childcare options need to be flexible, especially with a young baby.
You need to talk to your husband about the logistics of this. Who is going to be moving out? and who is going to be looking after the children? You need to get agreement sorted on this. It is not something that you can just decide and expect everyone else to capitulate.
Talk to each other!"One day I realised that when you are lying in your grave, it's no good saying, "I was too shy, too frightened."
Because by then you've blown your chances. That's it."0 -
Your not going to bin him because he's not a good provider are you?
If you are I think he's had a lucky escape.This is a system account and does not represent a real person. To contact the Forum Team email forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com0 -
Leave then. Two kids. No income and no home. I feel the tax payers pocket being picked again.Ask me no questions, and I'll tell you no lies0
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Oh and incidentally I've had many ups and downs in our married life. When we first got together I owned my own company. That closed a few years after. I then had a few jobs working for different companies. Then I went self employed again - made some good money. Them working for somebody again. Then working back by myself. Then a few years working from home. In the meantime I suffered from depression. Put weight on. And guess who's still by my side through better and worse?
And I love her to bits.Ask me no questions, and I'll tell you no lies0
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