Nice People Thread Number 11 - A Treasury of Nice People

neverdespairgirl

LydiaJ wrote: »

No idea what caused it.

DS is fine and has gone off to school. DD says she has a tummy pain and feels sick so I am keeping her at home. I've no way of telling whether she's actually ill or just trying to get in on the act with the "day off school" motif, but quite appreciating having somebody in the house who is fully clothed and can answer the door etc if necessary. She seems to have understood the importance of leaving me alone.

Look after yourself - I know from experience that lots of vomiting makes you feel all feek and weeble, and you need to chill and catch up with yourself a bit.

In his "What I did in my Christmas holidays" diary at school, Isaac wrote "Abba slept in my bed with me one night because Mummy was being sick on him and he didn't like it" which wasn't quite how I'd have put it. His teacher thought it was very funny and showed it to us, but didn't put that page on the wall (thankfully!)

Generali

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Telling anyone that someone which does hurt them shouldn't do so is a smacking offence, I reckon.

I considered suggesting that if it's that painless then I could remove their parotid gland without painkillers.

I don't really understand why people who haven't got a clue are so aggressive with their medical advice.

Spirit_2

Generali wrote: »

I think it's fair to say that work did not go well today.

I looked awful, couldn't concentrate and my dressing started falling off. I was sent home with much gentle concern at lunchtime.

I also worked out that whilst most of my colleagues are very nice people, several are highly enthusiastic amateur doctors who are very aggressive in their treatment recommendations despite having not a single clue what they are talking about.
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Gen, can you make and agree a plan for a phased return to work post procedures/treatments which includes part time working and working at home? If you are able to do more then great, but if it does take time you have an adapted work programme and managed expectations .

I have often felt I could not give myself permission to stay "off" once into a recovery phase .

My colleagues are very nice people, several are highly enthusiastic and specialist doctors and nurses. Their voiced opinion on my too soon returns to full on work amounts to "no heroics".

edit: they also say take all the painkillers you are offered (post surgery).

Spirit_2

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

"Abba slept in my bed with me one night because Mummy was being sick on him and he didn't like it"

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

LydiaJ

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Look after yourself - I know from experience that lots of vomiting makes you feel all feek and weeble, and you need to chill and catch up with yourself a bit.

In his "What I did in my Christmas holidays" diary at school, Isaac wrote "Abba slept in my bed with me one night because Mummy was being sick on him and he didn't like it" which wasn't quite how I'd have put it. His teacher thought it was very funny and showed it to us, but didn't put that page on the wall (thankfully!)

I can see that Isaac has an admirably succinct way of getting straight to the point. :rotfl:

Don't worry. I won't even contemplate doing anything much until I'm back to eating solids, which I'm not yet. In any case, next week is "magic week" when my kids are at school but I'm not, so I'll get plenty of rest then.

Generali wrote: »

I considered suggesting that if it's that painless then I could remove their parotid gland without painkillers.

I don't really understand why people who haven't got a clue are so aggressive with their medical advice.

Probably they are trying to be helpful, and have no idea that what they are doing is the very opposite of helpful. Or possibly they are sufficiently narcissistic to think that your illness features on the global stage merely as an excuse for talking about theirs and throwing their weight around.

Generali

Spirit wrote: »

Gen, can you make and agree a plan for a phased return to work post procedures/treatments which includes part time working and working at home? If you are able to do more then great, but if it does take time you have an adapted work programme and managed expectations .

I have often felt I could not give myself permission to stay "off" once into a recovery phase .

My colleagues are very nice people, several are highly enthusiastic and specialist doctors and nurses. Their voiced opinion on my too soon returns to full on work amounts to "no heroics".

edit: they also say take all the painkillers you are offered (post surgery).

This is just typical of me TBH. I can walk a few feet which obviously means I can ride 100kms.

I tend to treat being ill as a digital thing: I'm either ill or well. I realise that is rubbish but it doesn't stop me behaving in that way.

I'll find out on Thursday what the score is with my disease and I'll see if I need ongoing treatment. If I do then I guess I'll have to look at something, perhaps working a few days a week or something like that. Perhaps having an extended period of time off and then diving straight back in.

We'll see. I guess I need to remember how my personality restricts my ability to get well.

lostinrates

Spirit wrote: »

edit: they also say take all the painkillers you are offered (post surgery).

Post op they always say that when you are really weak....' Take this while its offered it won't be offered later'. I deal ok with pain, less well with coming down from that stuff tbh. The thing is, most people don't know, thankfully, what suits them best until they are in the situation.

Pain relief and sleep always seem to be a really good option though.

Gen, people are only saying stuff because they care and don't really know what to say so they end up spouting rubbish probably.

Sorry it hurts so much.

lemonjelly

Gen, hope our compassion balances the feedback you've had at work. I do hope for a swift recovery & that you will then feel a little more "you".

Lydia, enjoy a days R&R. A duvet day sounds in order.

Tomterm I have issues with my elbow. I've started using a pc mouse with my other arm, to avoid doing everything with the one arm. It seems to affect me so much more at certain (busy) times of the year when extra clicking happens a lot.

NDG hoping these Isaac tales, & the future impending happiness contrast happily with the current temporary low.

LIR hope the site meetings are productive for you. It sounds like great strides are now being taken!

I've had a mental week work wise. So much so that I don't know what to do next. Never mind...

First bowls match of the season tomorrow!:)

tomterm8

From what I've observed cancer is a difficult disease to plan because in itself you can be very ill and not feel it. It's a weird mix of acute and chronic, with most of the acute bits being after or during treatment rather than as a direct result of the cancer.

tomterm8

lemonjelly wrote: »

Tomterm I have issues with my elbow. I've started using a pc mouse with my other arm, to avoid doing everything with the one arm. It seems to affect me so much more at certain (busy) times of the year when extra clicking happens a lot.

Sorry, I didn't notice this post... as an old techie I write in VIM, use the VIM plugin in mozilla which means when I'm doing the vast majority of my work my fingers never leave the home keys. It's faster that way and you don't get so much repetitive strain injury.

These particular injuries are definitely weight-lifting-related, though, and not computer related. I know the exact moment that I created them and it was through being a little bit thick...