Nice People Thread Number 11 - A Treasury of Nice People

lostinrates

Doozergirl wrote: »

Rant alert.

I will never understand my DH. We give people to work. This week, we have lent money to someone in advance of them actually doing the work. After I said no. He is happier to say yes to anything that anyone asks, except me.

Today, I get a phonecall, leaving London at 5pm. He left he at 6am this morning. He is 'doing a favour' for someone else to 'pick up' a kitchen bought from ebay on the way home. He has just driven to Cambs - Cambs is not on on the way home from London. The guy he's 'helping' is lost, so H is now in the process of fully ripping out a kitchen (which has to be salvaged, obv, so takes longer) with cousin alone.

I've also worked out (this stuff gets drip fed to me by my own logic) that helping also involves using our truck to transport it. The guy lives 45 minutes further on from our house, so a 90 minute round trip from here.

Now, call me mean, but I think we're extending quite far past 'favour'. He is incapable of saying no to anyone and these things also usually cost us money. What will happen is aside from diesel we will pay cousin for the insanely long day he's just fallen into by proxy.

Oh doozer, I'm sorry.

PasturesNew

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Coffee tables seem, to me, designed to catch people's shins as they negotiate around them.

We have two small, low square tables, about 1 ft square, which ambush fewer people but contain drinks happily.

I had a big coffee table once, because I thought that's what you have .... and found it was never used, but was always in the way. Much better to have a collection of small tables that can be put where required.

lostinrates

PasturesNew wrote: »

The known world is all out of chips, so I have no chips.

I decided to treat myself to "proper chips from the chippy" but when I got there the queue looked long and the shop looked full, so I went all the way round again to check ... queue was up the road. So then I drove off, then thought I might get an indian, so went round again and parked outside.... and looked at the indian and thought "I didn't come out for an indian..... I can get chips from Lidl", so took off again to Lidl. Out of chips .... freezer was out of the 1Kg bags of chips I usually get ... so that was that.... picked up some crumpets... took another/final drive past the chipshop and it's still bunged.

So I had two crumpets for tea.

Are you trying the places nearest your house? Worth getting low down on which are your favs.



I haven't thought about supper.

We just did the freezer inventory properly at last. all the prep made it easy.

I've been running it down for ages so it looks quite mean for a proper country chest freezer but I feel like the freezer we call the panic room isn't big enough . Now I have all the dogs back on proper food ( wasn't practical to be fully raw with so much work going on in the house, no easy hot water for easy clean ups etc etc) I'm going to have to stop buying half pigs at the same time as while sheep and shares of cows. . Haven't bought a bit of a cow for a while actually, but I'm down to last bag of lamb ( put on inventory as unID lamb bits).

Doozergirl

lostinrates wrote: »

Oh doozer, I'm sorry.

You've had a !!!!!! day. I should apologise to you. I'd rather him have been available to you for another hug. He could have done that in the same amount of time!

I'm not angry with him, I love him because he is giving, but I have seen people take the absolute proverbial out of his nature. It's Friday night; if I'd have asked to go out he'd have told me we can't afford it, yet he's out paying to work for someone that we have to pay to work for us. Friendship goes both ways.

Actually, I'm raging with the other guy. He's let us down on two occasions within the last week!

I need to delete this in a bit when i've calmed down. Hmmph.

lostinrates

PasturesNew wrote: »

I had a big coffee table once, because I thought that's what you have .... and found it was never used, but was always in the way. Much better to have a collection of small tables that can be put where required.

I hate our coffee table ( which is big) but it is useful for one thing.....blocking dogs when they push through.

I know exactly what I want of course, but it will wait for some years until the floors etc are done in there. By then big dog won't be around to break it either.

Spirit_2

lostinrates wrote: »

I'm catching up as I go.


I've had a !!!!!!, !!!!!! day. I'm lucky to be at home tonight, I thought they were going to make me to inpatient because they found a nother broken bit today that I didn't expect BUT it seems ok this evening. Its something that has NEzvER EVER been a problem and the notable impact was I was lostforwords. Imagine that.

Now the guessing starts. Was it anomaly. Was it caught and happening often, or was it a response to something and nothing to do with my health ( I think the latter) . Anyway.

Its been the pits. The absolute pits.

Sorry to hear about your day liR. The bit I put in bold told me most of all. Have a hug.

lostinrates

Doozergirl wrote: »

You've had a !!!!!! day. I should apologise to you. I'd rather him have been available to you for another hug. He could have done that in the same amount of time!

I'm not angry with him, I love him because he is giving, but I have seen people take the absolute proverbial out of his nature. It's Friday night; if I'd have asked to go out he'd have told me we can't afford it, yet he's out paying to work for someone that we have to pay to work for us. Friendship goes both ways, apparantly.

Actually, I'm raging with the other guy. He's let us down on two occassions within the last week!

I think most customers will know doozer is sincere and its also clear he doesn't run people who work for him down. His work with plumber has been tremendous, and reflected well on both this week.

There is something about doozer that reminds me of someone else I know. DH has a friend who is an amazing musician. I think he is going to be VERY famous one day in classical music. He already is well known, but I said in our early twenties.....before this guy was working, this guy was great, and I have worked with some truely great classical musicians. But anyway. One of the great things about this guy is that he doesn't show off his talent in a way that makes other musician look less great. When playing jazz for example, he has conversations with them that elevate what good musicians have played and make it great, not overshadowing it, but saying ' look audience, look how great that guy just played, wasn't that wonderful, I loved it, then they converse, how jazz should be at its best, so even a gal like me who isn't smitten gets it. When DH plays with him I could listen for weeks, because I see he sees I to dh's meaning and he lifts it up.

People who are really good, and lift other peoe up with them rather than peacock about it, or overshadow, or even just enjoy being great, are very precious. Doozer brings what's good out of his team. When he is about you can see they work a bit harder, laugh a bit louder, they are inspired by him.

Nikkster

lostinrates wrote: »

When he is about you can see they work a bit harder, laugh a bit louder, they are inspired by him.

And you try to tell us you're not a nice person (small n)? What a lovely post in so many ways.

Spirit_2

Doozergirl wrote: »

You've had a !!!!!! day. I should apologise to you. I'd rather him have been available to you for another hug. He could have done that in the same amount of time!

I'm not angry with him, I love him because he is giving, but I have seen people take the absolute proverbial out of his nature. It's Friday night; if I'd have asked to go out he'd have told me we can't afford it, yet he's out paying to work for someone that we have to pay to work for us. Friendship goes both ways.

Actually, I'm raging with the other guy. He's let us down on two occasions within the last week!

You need to let the other guy know what the cost of tonight is - even if it is just passing on the extra pay you have to pay to cousin.

Without some change it sounds as if Doozer is teaching him it is OK to take advantage of Doozer, which will one day result in a bigger falling out.


A friend has a second home in Cyprus. They have let another good friend use the villa and car regularly, three or more times a year. This has manifested into the good friend treating the villa as their own and making "their" weeks available to their wider family. Recently they were pressuring the villa's owners into not going as their daughter, her partner and two friends wanted to go at that time and the villas owners can go anytime. These generous people have said no, and that they need to rethink how they share/make available their second home on a more formal footing.

PasturesNew

lostinrates wrote: »

Are you trying the places nearest your house? Worth getting low down on which are your favs.

The trouble is that the next one is a further 2 mile round trip ... and untested. The chippy I like are fabulous chips, just how they used to be years ago. A proper/posh chef who bought a chippy... he's got two now. 20 years Exec Chef at Hilton group.