Stressed already.

emawasten

I think evening wedding is not a bad idea. You can go with this.

Floss

OP, if I were you, I would take a little time away from your revision to go & book your registry office wedding, then you know you've got your special date, you'd be gutted if it got booked while you were doing your exams.

Kayalana99

Yea we will be booking it but the temptation to start spending hours trawling the internet to make a plan etc of what I need and what I'm going to do is annoying... *pins pins pins*

Have some work to do atm then I shall do some studying for today....had my hands full with little man ;_;

Kayalana99

So, another problem that's on my mind (I am trying to study it's so hard to focus I have to admit I've been looking at wedding dresses online and I am IN LOVE with one ... )

Is their a polite way to ask people not to take photos? It's basically two children at my wedding - the mother doesn't want them on facebook. She has a very valid reason for this that can't be ignored, whilst her side would keep to this - it would be quite annoying to have to explain this to my side, and we also have guests coming in that we don't know that well who will also want to know 'why'

I was thinking but in a nicer way...Please could we request that no photos are taken during the wedding ceremony, and if any are taken during the day are of your direct family only.

Floss

I would put a note in with your invites with "rules" for the day...for example:

No photos unless it's just bride & groom or your own family
No "off-the-list" presents (as if!)
Please bring your own washing-up kit
Dress code - black tie & wellies

Pinzy

Have you made a list of all the other costs yet? There's free wedding planners online to help show you everything that you need to think of. I used those as a basis for my Excel spreadsheet, to list Everything we could possibly want. Researched and added costs to everything, fainted, then trimmed it from there.

I would recommend doing this, then you'll know how much you realistically have left to spend on a venue.

I found doing studies a welcome break for my brain from wedding stuff!

Kayalana99

No but I will as soon as my exams are over - I know if I start doing that then I'll start looking for everything I need....haha :-)

We are going to a wedding fayre on 6th april though (their is 7 of us going including the 3 kids whoops!)



Love your quote - wedding is booked now

Si_Clist

Kayalana99 wrote: »

Is their a polite way to ask people not to take photos?

There are quite a few, but I reckon you're asking the wrong question

The right one is can I expect everybody to respect that request? And speaking as an ex professional wedding photographer I'd say it's extremely unlikely.

IMO the only sensible thing is for the mother to leave the kids at home. She's basically asking you to tailor part of your wedding round her kids.

However sympathetic you are to her predicament, you have to ask yourself (a) whether it's actually your problem or hers and (b) do you really need the extra stress?

Kayalana99

We can't leave them at home they are OH's sister and brother / flower girl

It's a delicate situation, and thank you for your input I did think of that even if we asked would people oblige.. maybe the only way IS to just explain to everyone.

We will work something out I am sure, it's not so much being sympathetic but understanding the issue here, it's not just a case of she doesn't want them on facebook.

I do think it would be a bit annoying with people asking why can't we take photos on the day lol.

Floss

Kayalana99 wrote: »

We can't leave them at home they are OH's sister and brother / flower girl

It's a delicate situation, and thank you for your input I did think of that even if we asked would people oblige.. maybe the only way IS to just explain to everyone.

We will work something out I am sure, it's not so much being sympathetic but understanding the issue here, it's not just a case of she doesn't want them on facebook.

I do think it would be a bit annoying with people asking why can't we take photos on the day lol.

Maybe one option to keep them out of the guests photos is to keep them out of the limelight and don't have his sister as a flower girl.

I would agree that it is not really your problem if their mother has a valid reason to keep them off Facebook, and would add that she should be the one to explain to everyone else and not you. And I would second keeping them away from the wedding if she doesn't want them on any photos. We only had 40 guests but they pop up all over the place on everyone's snaps as well as on the group photos.