How soon is too soon? Engagement

scoobydo_2

my ex and i met and were engaged after an month and married 8 months later . we were very happy though we had rough time too .He left me by still i don't regret marrying so soon after meeting .
If it feels right do it .

grahamliza4

We aren't married and I can't see the point to be honest. I have a ring but that's it.

We'd get a reduction on our car insurance policy(!) but that's about only benefit.

Really p***es me off when people hark on to us about it. We are not the least bit religious so the 'making a promise to god' bit is out. Other than that is there any reason? Our nice house and 2x kids are expensive and if we were going to get married/celebrate our relationship, I'd want a nice day (estimate £5k?), not some buffet disco in a village hall (altho this is fine for those who want it, but i personally don't).

We've agreed when we are out of financial peril (2010?!) and we have the spare £ (2030?!) we'll do it but until then I have 101 better things to spend the £ on.

We have promised each other the love, commitment, etc that any married couple would and it really annoys me that some might not view us as being as 'valid' a couple as those who are married. If you strip the religion away what's left? Standing up and declaring you love the other person and want them forever. I will do this on request, anytime, anyway (supermarket, pub...!), to anyone. I know there's the legalities of it but that's generally to do with money, and we have none so !

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bloomin_freezing

can_it_be_different wrote: »

Thanks for all the responses so far guys.On a slight tangent, do you feel it is important to have a ring when you actually propose?

Not at all, if she's in it for the right reasons and you are wanting to propose for the right reasons nothing else matters. My hubby proposed with a ring he'd quickly made from tin foil in the kitchen, I got my real ring a few weeks later. But i still wore the tin foil one, and i still have it in my jewellery box. I would be totally gutted if i lost it.

inkie

We got engaged after 6 months, and married after 18 months. It's our 15th anniversary this year. If it feels right - then go for it. Marriage is a promise to forsake all others - if you want to commit to this, then do it!

Curious_George_2

bloomin_freezing wrote: »

I didnt believe it until it happened to me but it's true, you really do know when you have met the one.

aint that the truth!
as i said, my OH and I know that we will be together forever, and we say things like "im going to marry you" etc
we propose to each other when we are being soppy and regard ourselves as engaged i suppose even though the deed hasnt officially been done, and i know he wont ask properly until he has the ring (which i have picked)

he was going to do it at the top of the empire state building on my birthday (but he didnt have the ring!!)

Unknown1234_2

My fiance and i got engaged after 9 months in 04 and will be married in 2010 : )

Welshlassie

My mum & dad meet and were engaged within a week and married within 6 months and that was 29 years ago and they are still together. They were around the same age as yourselves.

If it feels right go for it.