Do people still go on 'dates'?

emsywoo123

CC-Warrior wrote: »

Being friends with someone first is so much easier than trying to be yourself on a 'date'.

I think dating, and especially going on 'first dates' is overrated. I would rather stay single.

Chirpy.

We didn't meet and say right we are dating, I think it just became dating. At which point I'm not quite sure - for me it was when I realised that I'd be bothered if I didn't see him again.

I should probably let him know we are now dating :rotfl:

ladymarmalade

We'll I can't really comment on dating new partners as I have been with my partner since I was 18 and am now 26.

However we regularly go on what I suppose you could term as dates. We often go for meals, we go for lots of walks around various national trust properties, we occasionally go away for a weekend, we go to the cinema and we'll go into town for a few cocktails. We also have weekends when we like to make a bit more of an effort and get nice steaks from the butchers and make starters and puddings and a nice bottle of bubbly instead of a night in pjs watching ant and dec lol.

System

I've never really dated

Well there kind of was with my first serious bf, though that was more as friends

With current bf our first date (and the first time we met in person!) we started going out

mum2one

I've think i've forgot what a date is.... but open to offers to refresh the memory!! xx

Netwizard

I'm 30 and never been on a date either. I'd rather be friends with someone and get to know them that way.

I imagine first dates to be horrible. Trying to be yourself, while keeping the other person interested and entertained, while battling with first date nerves and butterflies?

I'll stick to being single too :rotfl:

DKLS

I went on a date yesterday with my wife, nice pootle to the countryside, romantic walk to build an appetite for a pub lunch followed by a lazy afternoon catching up with Sky+.

Not much different from when we first met and dating is a great way to invest in the relationship.

duchy

It's all in a name......
I'm not sure where going out for a meal or to concert with someone you are getting to know stops being "going to a meal/concert together" stops- and a date starts..... surely not just the expectation/hope of sex at the end of the evening?

Mirno

Men: If you spend more time than usual (and lets face it in most of our cases it's zero minutes) picking out the clothes you wear before heading out to meet her - then it's a date.

Clearly the same test can't be applied to women - they spend incalculable numbers of hours thinking about just shoes let alone the rest of their outfit.

InsideInsurance

morganedge wrote: »

other friends who are in proper relationships, but none of them went on a 'date' as such before getting together.

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Someone told me that the whole thing is old fashioned.
And that, if a girl doesn't think you're hot, she won't go on a date with you anyway. If she thinks you're hot, there's no point in going on a date, as you're already 'in'

How did the others get into their proper relationships? I doubt many of them went straight from a nightclub one night stand to living together without arranging to meet each other at least a couple of times in between that.

It may be an old fashioned term or may signal an intent but a rose by any other name is still a rose.

I know plenty of friends who've arranged to meet up with someone for drinks/ dinner etc but have claimed its not a date. They can call it whatever they want because of not wanting connotations but it is a date.

Unless someone is exceptionally bored or lonely then yes they'll only agree to go on a "date" with someone who they find attractive in some way, be that appearance, personality, wallet etc. Why else would you spend an evening in the company of someone else if you didnt like them?

If you just want to sleep with someone and you believe they like you already then there is still the point of having a date to set up the situation where you are together and concentrating on each other rather than relying on randomly bumping into each other in a situation where they arent distracted by whoever else they went out with.

Goldiegirl

CC-Warrior wrote: »

Being friends with someone first is so much easier than trying to be yourself on a 'date'.

I think dating, and especially going on 'first dates' is overrated. I would rather stay single.

Dating always sounds like meeting a person you don't know very well, making stilted conversation in a restaurant, in the hope you may have something in common.

I'd much rather go out with a friend, or someone I knew I have a least a bit in common with.

Although it's a bit academic, as I've been married 32 years. But even when we started going out with each other I never thought of it as 'dating', it was meeting up with someone I wanted to see.