Help please. What to do about discrimination at work.

makeyourdaddyproud

Poppie68 wrote: »

Maybe the OP admitted to it because she thought she was only going to get a 'telling off' and when she recieved a written warning she was surprised and therefore appealed.

Also as the OP is already 'suffering' stress, panic attacks and high blood pressure maybe taking things further with a grievence etc is going to be detrimental to her furture health and certainly not going to aid recovery.
As others have said she needs to move on...

Are we to presume that the OP's employer skipped the verbal step?

I might have missed that point.

Poppie68

PHILANTHROPIST wrote: »

You may be right Poppie.

Well thankyou PHIL....:beer:

Poppie68

makeyourdaddyproud wrote: »

Are we to presume that the OP's employer skipped the verbal step?

I might have missed that point.

Good point makeyourdaddyproud...you can also :beer:

Takeaway_Addict

makeyourdaddyproud wrote: »

Are we to presume that the OP's employer skipped the verbal step?

I might have missed that point.

You don't have to do them in order, it depends on the severity of the disciplinary

Paypeanuts

Suesue914 wrote: »

I know for a fact that no one else has been disciplined but not only that but not even spoken to and I know this because they have told me and I believe them.
Also I have spoken to other managers of mine who have been surprised that I got 'done' for this and not just told off not to do it again. Yes in the grand scheme of things it was misconduct and I accept this but not only the other managers I have spoken to said they are very surprised the manager took that action but also the rep agreed with me that I was very unlucky and it was extremely harsh.

1) You do not know that nobody else has been disciplined for the same issue.
2) We only know the tiny amount you have told us in this thread. We do not know the full circumstances.
3) It was misconduct. You accept it yourself. Perhaps another manager might not have escalated to disciplinary, but yours did. There is discretion in management.
4) You are absolutely obsessing over this for no logical reason that I can understand and you will make yourself ill if you continue. Either come to terms with it via some kind of counselling or mediation meeting, or find another job.

PHILANTHROPIST

Paypeanuts wrote: »

1) You do not know that nobody else has been disciplined for the same issue.

Technically, the above may be a valid assumption. Disciplinary action against other staff is meant to be a private and confidential matter. Sadly, it rarely is. It is, however, unlikely that the OP will have written/ demonstrable evidence to back up her assertion, but in reality it may be true that she "knows".

Other than that I am inclined to agree re other contributors sentiments.

Suesue914

I have spoken to other members of the team and they have confirmed that they have never been picked up on not completing this work before not by the manager who picked me up on it or any of the other managers.
An old manager who no longer works for the company confirmed to me that they have never picked anyone up on not completing this work before and I have no reason not to believe them. The old manager is a friend not just an old colleague and I have been privy to things before that not everyone knows but I have been trusted with information and have never 'let the cat out of the bag' as it were with regards to information.

The manager who dealt with my appeal was from another part of the company. I had never heard of them before or met them.

I was guilty of the misconduct and so I admitted it. Ive always admitted to my mistakes and I was the only person in that could complete the work anyway that day.
I am obsessing about the misconduct for several reasons.
One if I wanted to move location to another part of the company the first thing that would be seen on my record is written warning so it would be near impossible for me to do so.
When on a written warning Im not eligible for any bonuses or payrises so it will affect me financially on what is already a close to minimum wage job.
Yes disciplinary is meant to be private and confidential but in reality at my place this is never true. Some of the managers are not the most professional of people to put it mildly.

PHILANTHROPIST

Suesue914 wrote: »

I have spoken to other members of the team and they have confirmed that they have never been picked up on not completing this work before not by the manager who picked me up on it or any of the other managers.
An old manager who no longer works for the company confirmed to me that they have never picked anyone up on not completing this work before and I have no reason not to believe them. The old manager is a friend not just an old colleague and I have been privy to things before that not everyone knows but I have been trusted with information and have never 'let the cat out of the bag' as it were with regards to information.

The manager who dealt with my appeal was from another part of the company. I had never heard of them before or met them.

I was guilty of the misconduct and so I admitted it. Ive always admitted to my mistakes and I was the only person in that could complete the work anyway that day.
I am obsessing about the misconduct for several reasons.
One if I wanted to move location to another part of the company the first thing that would be seen on my record is written warning so it would be near impossible for me to do so.
When on a written warning Im not eligible for any bonuses or payrises so it will affect me financially on what is already a close to minimum wage job.
Yes disciplinary is meant to be private and confidential but in reality at my place this is never true. Some of the managers are not the most professional of people to put it mildly.

Let me think about your options. I'm busy at mo, but give me a day or so. If need be give me a nudge to remind me by PM.

Undervalued

People tend to forget that "discrimination" is perfectly lawful UNLESS it is one of the handful of types prohibited by law (race, sexual orientation, gender etc).

So, unless you can show that it was for one of these reasons that you were treated differently there is little you can do.

Can you? If not, all you can do is try and put it behind you or find another job.

You cannot make a tribunal claim about whether a warning was fair or not. Had you been dismissed your MIGHT have had a valid claim but you weren't so that option is not available.

Sorry!

Suesue914

Thanks Philanthropist. I really appreciate it and also thanks to everyone who has contributed to this thread.
I just wish it was easy to 'accept it and get over it' but it isnt.
I think that is my anxiety coming into play there unfortunately for me.