Help please. What to do about discrimination at work.

Takeaway_Addict

If you are under a new manager and they have indicated that its not an issue to them then I would seriously look at trying to accept it and move on, whether it be by counselling or not because dragging this up once again isn't going to help you or your employer or your new manager.

There is little to gain here by taking it further IMO.

I presume that when you appealed you mentioned others not getting in trouble for doing the same? If so I would guess a grievance would do little.

If you don't accept this then you have to look at making your objections formal but what if they still refuse to change anything? You'll be in a worse place

Suesue914

To be fair the first time they asked me to do this particular piece of work since I initially got the warning I said ok but then had my first ever panic attack so someone else had to take over and then after that I havent been asked to do it and said I would prefer it if I wasnt asked to do that work again and I havent been.
My work hasnt been called into question since this incident.
Another thing I didnt mention is my blood pressure is quite high which is one reason for wanting this resolved one way or another as the only times I get near normal readings is when Im off work.
So in that sense workplace adjustments have been made.
I want to have a meeting with the particular manager so I can hear their reasons why they have treated me differently to others. If this happens then I will take it from there but this wont change anything about how I have felt in the last 6 months. Really really low which is such a shame as usually I enjoy my job and do it well.

Takeaway_Addict

Suesue914 wrote: »

To be fair the first time they asked me to do this particular piece of work since I initially got the warning I said ok but then had my first ever panic attack so someone else had to take over and then after that I havent been asked to do it and said I would prefer it if I wasnt asked to do that work again and I havent been.
My work hasnt been called into question since this incident.
Another thing I didnt mention is my blood pressure is quite high which is one reason for wanting this resolved one way or another as the only times I get near normal readings is when Im off work.
So in that sense workplace adjustments have been made.
I want to have a meeting with the particular manager so I can hear their reasons why they have treated me differently to others. If this happens then I will take it from there but this wont change anything about how I have felt in the last 6 months. Really really low which is such a shame as usually I enjoy my job and do it well.

Having this meeting isn't going to help unless the manager admits they made a mistake. If they are steadfast in their reasoning then you won't accept it and nothings improved

The company have made adjustments and its highly unlikely you will find a satisfactory response on this.

Suesue914

Im not sure this meeting is going to help but Im willing to try anything that might help me move on from this as I really would not have envisaged feeling this strongly 6 months on from the initial incident. Its proved impossible to just 'get over it' as its only happened to me. My employer I would say is generally great so Im trying not to let one incident in over 10 years overshadow what was a great working relationship.

cazziebo

Suesue914 wrote: »

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I want to have a meeting with the particular manager so I can hear their reasons why they have treated me differently to others. .

This is a no win situation.

You admit you were guilty of misconduct
The manager used the company's disciplinary code.

That's beyond challenge - any amount of conversations won't change these facts.

What you really want the answer to is why other people were not disciplined (as far as you know) and the manager should not discuss that with you. That is none of your business.

Seriously, you have to take a step back and question what you want out of this. You say you enjoy your job, but you then detail all these quite serious medical conditions that you attribute to your work.

From what you say, it looks like your employer is trying to accommodate you (and not many retailers would be that obliging). From what you have described, this appears to be a situation that has grown way out of proportion. You have a new manager, but you are still obsessed with something that happened in the past and isn't really of any relevance now. This obsession is having an impact on your wellbeing. The way I see it, and I can only go on what you say here, is that the problem isn't with your employer, it's with how you see the situation.

Suesue914

I know for a fact that no one else has been disciplined but not only that but not even spoken to and I know this because they have told me and I believe them.
Also I have spoken to other managers of mine who have been surprised that I got 'done' for this and not just told off not to do it again. Yes in the grand scheme of things it was misconduct and I accept this but not only the other managers I have spoken to said they are very surprised the manager took that action but also the rep agreed with me that I was very unlucky and it was extremely harsh.

PHILANTHROPIST

Suesue914 wrote: »

To be fair the first time they asked me to do this particular piece of work since I initially got the warning I said ok but then had my first ever panic attack so someone else had to take over and then after that I havent been asked to do it and said I would prefer it if I wasnt asked to do that work again and I havent been.
My work hasnt been called into question since this incident.
Another thing I didnt mention is my blood pressure is quite high which is one reason for wanting this resolved one way or another as the only times I get near normal readings is when Im off work.
So in that sense workplace adjustments have been made.
I want to have a meeting with the particular manager so I can hear their reasons why they have treated me differently to others. If this happens then I will take it from there but this wont change anything about how I have felt in the last 6 months. Really really low which is such a shame as usually I enjoy my job and do it well.

The passing of your work on to another may be a reasonable adjustment, but it's only a token gesture and does not appear to have been an agreed adjustment following a constructive and open minded discussion.

A member inferred that OP admitted to misconduct. It is rare that an employee willingly admits to misconduct, in particular, when the allegations are made in such an apparently inconsistent manner. I sense that the OP was bullied into accepting a disciplinary. If the OP had admitted to it then why did they appeal. Sadly, 99 % of employee appeals are never upheld. They are a sham. Only a judge can ultimately overturn such an allegedly vexatious judgement.

I do not recommend such a course of action, in part because it's too late to do so, but to do nothing may also be unwise. Based on what you say, your employer has to take you seriously. If they don't let us know .

Poppie68

PHILANTHROPIST wrote: »

The passing of your work on to another may be a reasonable adjustment, but it's only a token gesture and does not appear to have been an agreed adjustment following a constructive and open minded discussion.

A member inferred that OP admitted to misconduct. It is rare that an employee willingly admits to misconduct, in particular, when the allegations are made in such an apparently inconsistent manner. I sense that the OP was bullied into accepting a disciplinary. If the OP had admitted to it then why did they appeal. Sadly, 99 % of employee appeals are never upheld. They are a sham. Only a judge can ultimately overturn such an allegedly vexatious judgement.

I do not recommend such a course of action, in part because it's too late to do so, but to do nothing may also be unwise. Based on what you say, your employer has to take you seriously. If they don't let us know .

Maybe the OP admitted to it because she thought she was only going to get a 'telling off' and when she recieved a written warning she was surprised and therefore appealed.

Also as the OP is already 'suffering' stress, panic attacks and high blood pressure maybe taking things further with a grievence etc is going to be detrimental to her furture health and certainly not going to aid recovery.
As others have said she needs to move on...

PHILANTHROPIST

Poppie68 wrote: »

Maybe the OP admitted to it because she thought she was only going to get a 'telling off' and when she recieved a written warning she was surprised and therefore appealed.

Also as the OP is already 'suffering' stress, panic attacks and high blood pressure maybe taking things further with a grievence etc is going to be detrimental to her furture health and certainly not going to aid recovery.
As others have said she needs to move on...

You may be right Poppie.

Bantex_2

Stop obsessing about what is and is not happening to others and just get on with your job. Life is not always fair and you have not suffered any great disadvantage from what you say.