Struggling with life.

Say_who?

Hang in there with the anti depressants they often take longer than four weeks to kick in. I've been on and off Prozac for years and for me it's usually six weeks before I feel any effects. The good news is that it doesn't just stop at feeling better, once the pills really kick in you'll feel ready to take on the world!

You sound like a wonderful mum, hang in there for your boy.

By the way has anyone mentioned Wikivorce?

nat21luv

Caroline_a wrote: »

You've had this from your ex's solicitor - not from the court?? It should come from the court not from him!

If it has come from the court, don't worry about not having legal representation there - I represented myself, and the judge was very kind and sympathetic to me!

Im sorry, I meant the solicitor sent a covering letter and the court papers attached.

nat21luv

fannyanna wrote: »

Sounds like a really, really horrible time. I'm not surprised you feel so anxious.

My view on moving is to stay put.

If you move (away from your ex and his family) that is likely to add fuel to the fire. I wouldn't normally suggest that you have such consideration for them but they are doing quite well at making your life hell and I imagine the situation would escalate if you moved. You do not need any more stress to try and deal with. Especially if you're not going to have support from your family (your Mum) if you do make the move. In fact I imagine it would be very painful to have no support from your Mum when you need it. And even more so if you've made a move closer to her.

Just seen your update: I don't have experience with family issues and the courts but I am aware that a lot of people represent themselves at court. Please don't feel too overwhelmed that you can not afford legal representation. I'm sure you'll find many helpful resources on the internet to assist you.

Thanks for posting.


Ive decided Ill give a year and then go. No doubt there will be restrictions on how far I can go without his permission.


Ive spent all evening researching and Im unclear if I will get help financially. I left my ex 7 years ago after suffering domestic abuse and my son was 3 at the time and was witness to the last occasion. As 7 years have passed, do I still qualify when asked 'have you suffered DA ect'?

nat21luv

Say_who? wrote: »

Hang in there with the anti depressants they often take longer than four weeks to kick in. I've been on and off Prozac for years and for me it's usually six weeks before I feel any effects. The good news is that it doesn't just stop at feeling better, once the pills really kick in you'll feel ready to take on the world!

You sound like a wonderful mum, hang in there for your boy.

By the way has anyone mentioned Wikivorce?

Thank you, I feel like Im getting there, just hope they kick in before the court date!


Thanks for the suggestion, I will look into that first thing in the morning.

pmlindyloo

Have you contacted the people I suggested in post 19?

nat21luv

They are on my list this morning pmlindyloo, Ill let you know how I get on.

nat21luv

Ive contacted the childrenslegalcentre and she just cleared a few things up for me. Im not entitled to legal aid, I wish I was as Im second thinking whether Im capable of representing myself.


I did some googling of his solicitor, it says he excels in helping grandparents and is keen to help victims of domestic violence...hes backing the wrong horse then!

pmlindyloo

Another link with some contacts that may be able to help with the court side of things:

http://www.adviceguide.org.uk/england/law_e/law_legal_system_e/law_taking_legal_action_e/help_with_legal_costs_-_free_or_affordable_help.htm