Depression Support Thread

happysinglemum

Miroslav wrote: »

The way I look at the world, most people go for looks and money. I've not know any different, well I have, but it's rare. I'm not 100% I believe in love anymore, I do kind of, because I have been there, but it's such a rare thing.

Things have worked out okay in one way, but I wish I never experienced 'S' as I wouldn't be feeling bad now. Now I know she is still around and in a worse situation, I feel bad. I couldn't save her, but I still feel bad for it

Miroslav - I'm fairly new here, but from what posts I've read you seem lovely! I can't speak for everyone, obviously, only from personal experience, but for me looks are a tiny part of my attraction to someone (and from what I've read, you have no problems with looks anyway)! As for money, my ex husband had a well-paid job when we were married, and even bought me a car to apologise for being unfaithful! :eek: I gave it back to him and left anyway. I moved to a smaller house, with only a part time job and my son to bring up. imho I'm better off poor and happy than rich and unhappy. So no, money doesn't come into it at all for me (and I'm sure I'm not alone there either).

Again, from personal experience, 'saving someone' won't build a strong relationship. My ex-husband's sister committed suicide a year before I met him, and when we met, I was having suicidal thoughts. He wanted to 'save' me because he hadn't been able to help his sister. He did such a good job of re-building my self-esteem that I was 'no longer the woman he'd married' and he was unfaithful with a young girl who also needed 'saving'.

Obviously, since then I've been trying to re-build my self-esteem by myself. It's been 5 years since we split up, and I've had one 6 week relationship since then (which ended about 2 months ago).

Please don't give up on love miro. It will come to you when you're ready hun. You seem to be such a warm and caring person from your posts - any girl would be lucky to have you as her bf.:D

Take care.

xx

Miroslav

happysinglemum wrote: »

Miroslav - I'm fairly new here, but from what posts I've read you seem lovely! I can't speak for everyone, obviously, only from personal experience, but for me looks are a tiny part of my attraction to someone (and from what I've read, you have no problems with looks anyway)! As for money, my ex husband had a well-paid job when we were married, and even bought me a car to apologise for being unfaithful! :eek: I gave it back to him and left anyway. I moved to a smaller house, with only a part time job and my son to bring up. imho I'm better off poor and happy than rich and unhappy. So no, money doesn't come into it at all for me (and I'm sure I'm not alone there either).

Again, from personal experience, 'saving someone' won't build a strong relationship. My ex-husband's sister committed suicide a year before I met him, and when we met, I was having suicidal thoughts. He wanted to 'save' me because he hadn't been able to help his sister. He did such a good job of re-building my self-esteem that I was 'no longer the woman he'd married' and he was unfaithful with a young girl who also needed 'saving'.

Obviously, since then I've been trying to re-build my self-esteem by myself. It's been 5 years since we split up, and I've had one 6 week relationship since then (which ended about 2 months ago).

Please don't give up on love miro. It will come to you when you're ready hun. You seem to be such a warm and caring person from your posts - any girl would be lucky to have you as her bf.:D

Take care.

xx

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Well, i'm no Brad Pitt. I don't think I am anything special. I do get some attention sometimes, but my flatmate says i'd get more if I didn't look like someone who'd bite someone's head off as when i'm out, i'm always prepared for battle so don't smile

Good for you for leaving him. Buying someone back isn't nice Most women I have met go for looks and money, but I know this isn't everyone, maybe just my bad experiences. 'S', my last lady 6 months ago, basically wanted to get to know me for what I looked like. I don't usually fall for that, but she had issues and I didn't want to hurt her. In the end I was very fond of her. Poor and happy is much better. I just have to find a nice young lady who accepts that I just have bad experiences and I should hate women, but I don't, just certain personalities. I have high standards because of my partner who passed away. Certain standards such as a good caring personality and the ability to make me laugh!

I'm not sure I could turn down someone who needed saving again. I wouldn't want to let her down, whoever she was, when in reality, I know I shouldn't get involved. I see your situation though, and sorry it happened

The only relationships i've had since my partner and daughter passed away
was 15-18 months (last 3 months she'd moved out but were still seeing each other) and 'S' for 3 months at the end of the last year. Not alot in 15 years

I just don't think many females wants caring, they want money, looks and status. I have no money, my looks I don't think are anything, I am unemployed, I don't drive and one or two things physical I need sorting out and I can't do that on my own as going to GP is scary when it's your body that isn't right and then operations on my own :eek:

Anyway, I have hope, just very little.

Hope you are well and hope to get to know you more on here over time :T

gillette147

You lightweights.....last orders at 12:15!! pah.

I have had my mom here since Friday - so haven't had time to post.
H Bday Karrie xxxxxxxxxx

I had fish and chips on friday nite and my old reflux flared up. Not had it for nearly 5 yrs. I have been swinging from discomfort to agony from then to now. I never got this rolling version of it before and it's been so long since I had an attack that I had considered myself cured. Bl00dy hell.
I'm up now because I feel ok and it's so nice I don't want to miss the relief by sleeping through it.

My mom is off home tomora. It's been ok but I haven't been able to be the host with the most.

Bloke on ebay has welshed on a PC I won. I've sent 6 messages to him since winning on wednesday. I suspect he weedles out of a sale if they go for too low a price. Boogger. I have threatened him and have bid on another pc. If by some miracle he comes good after all this I will just sell the worst one.

Another seller has sold me a hard disk enclosure that i am sure is wired wrong. But posting it back to him would double what I paid for it. I have sent three messages but I'm getting gobbledy-gook back (not english I'm guessing) Grrrrrrr.

Been doing lots of betting.
Made an £8.50 mistake today - but it just means I won less.
BTW Someone - you know who you are - needs to complete their bet and get their cash plus profit back or my 4hrs of training will have been wasted xxx

Hugs and handshakes to you all
xxxxxxxxxxx

Sugar_Coated_Owl

xxx

queensway_boy

Tiff wrote: »

Hi qb!:hello:
Not heard of it really hun I don't think - is it Birmingham way? If so, it's not Warwickshire.;)
Still at least you were in the middle of the country so you were kind of close.;)
Take care hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

I think it must 'just' be in Warickshire;) ,its a short distance from Redditch


its near the border of worcestershire-CLICK


Hope your well Tiff and enjoyed your holiday

Karrie

Thank you all for you birthday wishes. Really cheered me up to see them.

Still feeling kinda low today and am hoping it's just the withdrawal from cigs and not depression on it's way back again :eek:

Tiff_2

Hi guys!
Just want to wish everyone a good day and good luck for those with tests, appointments, interviews, treatment or meetings.:T :A I'll be thinking of you all.


I don't want to bring anyone down - heaven knows you all have enough to deal with! - but I wanted to let you know so that you didn't think I was ignoring you all or didn't care. That's why I didn't post it yesterday - and also I was trying to be practical and keeping busy.

Early yesterday morning, my mum (who lives in sheltered housing now), had to pull the emergency cord and have the paramedics in because she couldn't breathe. That's why I was so late signing in yesterday. She said she'd wait until the gp came on duty and have a home visit from her.

The dr said to my sister that the chest infection was still there. They have been treating her with antibiotics since January for this! Mum also has fluid in her lungs that can't be cured with her history, which means of course, that she's drowning. She's seen a gp over 8 times in 2 months, each one throwing antibiotics at her.

The freakin' gp said we'll try her on these mega antibiotics for 3 days and if they don't work, they'll admit her to have some other one intravenously. There's only so many drugs Mum can tolerate because of her heart and other illnesses. It's likely to go to pneumonia and the inevitable.
The gp was saying that basically all they can do is make mum comfortable. Even the oxygen isn't really helping now. It's not looking good for my mum.

I'm going back up to mum's today - in about 15 mins - and will try and get her admitted - to hell with 3 days! And miracles happen right? She can't get meals or drinks herself and she was crying this morning because she couldn't even open the curtains.

She feels all her dignity is gone and that it's all over and crying because she can't do things like opening the curtains, which is something we all take for granted. She's so tired.

And I'm in tears - I'm trying to be the fluffy Tiffster you all know and hate,:D but it feels as though my world is falling apart.

I'm sorry about that - enough self pity methinks.;)
Just want to say I'll post when I can and that I'll leave the keys to the smartie cupboard with sazzy until later. And I've done an inventory sazzy!:D

Tiffy hugs and love for everyone. Back when I can. Thinking of you all.
Much Love,
Tiffxxx

Sazbo

Bless your heart Tiff hun. We're all thinking of you - and mum - and we're all here for you anytime - you know that. Take care of you too though ok?

Love you,

Sazzy xxxxxxxxxx

andipandi_2

HI folks, not posting much cos i'm a bit fcuked up at the mo what with one dd going to the states to meet some guy who could turn out to be anyone and my eldest dd currently on bail for assault plus she lost her handbag which had everything in it,so i'm distracting myself by keeping busy working on the flat.

maybe its time to do something radical like get a passport and p1ss off for abit,trouble is i can't afford one and have no money for travelling.

i would like feed back on the following...

my OH suffers from extreme anxiety and it gets in my bones,i have enough trouble coping with my alcohol dependancy and depression as it is.

Also my OH is very non assertive (apart from with me) in her dealings with her family and all other adults ,i end up having to deal with it all and thats is a heavy workload on top of my own.

also i cannot say thanks to any posts because my thanks button has gone.

Andy

Karrie

Lots of ((((((((((HUGS))))))))) for Tiff.

and for ((((((((((ANDIPANDI)))))))))))