Depression Support Thread

juno

Tiff wrote: »

Hi juno!:hello:
Oh sweetie, I am sorry.
Well done for being honest and brave enough to 'fess up though angel. Did anything trigger this angel? This might be helpful to identify so that if it happens again, you can avoid that trigger.
You'll probably run a whole range of emotions when you get up hun & maybe feel like you've failed.

Not so!!!

Not meaning to sound preachy or anything sweetie, but what's happened, has happened & everyone's allowed to have a slip-up.
It'll only feel like you failed if you carry on drinking. You've worked so hard juno and you should feel really proud of yourself hun.:T

It's a really hard thing to do hun, but you managed for 3 weeks, and even though you had a slip-up last night, it was just one slip-up and you've proven that you do have the strength to stop. Tell yourself that hun & hopefully you'll keep adding the successful days to your signature line.;)
I hope you're not too hard on yourself today angel. Let's get through today and leave last night where it belongs. You can do this hun!:T Thinking of you.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Thanks.

I was feeling bad earlier, and I really didn't want to go to work today, but today is nearly over now, yay.

I don't think anything triggered me really. it's just my sister doesn't understand why I'm not drinking even though I've tried to explain, and I went out with her last night. And then somehow one led to another, and I was walking home at midnight in the rain with a DVD I managed to win on the raffle. (we went to a fashion show)

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

I had a good day today,I cant predict the winning lotto numbers for tonight,sorry Tiff I went for a walk along the seafront with my parents and went futher,I did it everyone I did it!!! after so long without lots of exercise I managed it and Dad said he was proud of me now I have to keep going

ordered a pc game from Play.com this morning

I am watching Casualty tonight as well

have a lovely evening everyone

love and light,

Katie xxx

ilovegreatdanes

juno....hows that was positivity?it was raining ..but you won a dvd.dont seem to be able to win zilch ,so well done.and well done for the best post suggestion.
tulip....well done to you re the exercise.life seems to be looking up for you lately and im so glad.keep up the good work!i wish i lived by the sea.you are so lucky.think the sea evokes such deep emotions, something to do with the moon and tides,i suppose.even the winter at the seaside has its own charm.
ilgd xx

geminilady

Pills44 wrote: »

Hi. I have posted a few times using another name but feel so low I need to talk to somebody. I am using another name I hope it is alright.

I have depression. I do not know what to do. I have fallen out with my best friend who has been by my side through it all for so long. I feel like I have lost the most important thing in my life. I am heartbroken. I have contacted my friend but she will not reply. It was a simple misunderstanding something silly but she has given up on me.

I do not know where to turn, what I can do now. I feel I cannot carry on, it hurts so much because she is ignoring me. A big part of my life is missing and I hurt so much.

Hi Pills.You can post under any name you want its the problem that is important not which name you go under.I am going through a similar thing myself but i do not want to hijack your post so will leave it for another time.I do however understand how much you are hurting.Do not give up hope just yet if she has been by your side through thick and thin i doubt she will have given up on you over a silly misunderstanding.It is frustrating when people do not reply.Have you tried various forms of contact?your post did not say which way you had contacted her but if she is ignoring the phone,maybe you could write or email her or wait a while and try again.Feel free to post as much or as little as you want but remember you are never completly alone there is always someone on here to listen.

ilovegreatdanes

pills....im so sorry to hear about your probs.might have to give your friend alittle time and im sure she will come right.its hard for ppl to help when they dont know the details or abit of your history, or how bad the falling out was, cos something trivial to one person may be a big deal to another.maybe she got the wrong end of what you mean, or it wasnt what you said but how you phrased it, iykwim.im sure shes not ignorig me on purpose but just needs to pull away from the situation to mull it over.
it hurts when you have rows but good friends work stuff out, so the more you worry,the worse it seems.am sure after a sleep, you will feel alittle better and the rest will take your mind off churning stuff over and imagining the worst.
you could try to see her and ask her to explain things to you, and take it from there.please try to give yourselves alittle me time.
i know you are hurting so much now but it will get better.
is there anything you can do to take your mind off worrying?
please keep in touch so we know you are ok.
i will be thinking of you.stay safe and take care.
love ilgd xx

BigMummaF

Well, the nights are certainly closing in earlier now, & a definate chill to the air, even down here. I almost put a pair of gloves on yesterday when I took pup out at 4:30 in the afternoon:eek: & I never used to feel the cold....much more of this & I'll be in my winciette nightie with the long sleeves & matching bed-socks:rotfl: :rotfl: & that's just for daytime:eek: :rotfl: :rotfl: :eek:

This thing about friendship----my philosophy is; if you are true friends, you will love & laugh, cry & hug, fight & hurt all your lives through.....but you will always have a friend by your side. Sometimes we can get a little too self absorbed & forget what we have said & done to our loved ones, & deny them the freedom of having feelings & opinions that are as personal as our own.
IMHO, I think that providing you have told your pal how you feel, & show respect for their pain, you should maybe back off & let them come to you.
You may thinkyou are on your own, but you've got us OK?

Tiff, when I started, I saw your little light on. I'm telling you now, young Kitt, that you have a busy day tomorrow, so turn that light out & in your box!;)

Sleep well, & Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

ilovegreatdanes

i know its so hard to think that someone who you trusted and shared your really personal stuff with, doesnt want to know anymore, and all you want to do is curl up somewhere and never trust anyone again, but it will get better.i have been through some stuff lately that i though i would never come throu, but the pain gets less.
i think fate sends different ppl into our lives at different times to teach us stuff we need, and when we have learned, they go and we move on to the next life lesson.
maybe its time for you and your friend to meet some different ppl in your life so you can both get on with the next stuff.
think the crying will be a theraputic process, so if you need to cry, then let it out.
you will get through this.perhaps this is not the friend you need right now, but its so hard to give up on someone that you love so much.we cant force ppl to love us ,or even like us so we have to just do the best we can.
i apologise if ive hurt you by any of my comments, cos i know ppl say stuff i dont want to hear and i feel like saying,what the hell do they know about it, they are spouting rubbish.
im just trying to tell you that i think i know what you are going throu , alittle ,and im hoping that you make it.just try your best.
love juliexx

rose07

Pills44 wrote: »

Hi. I have posted a few times using another name but feel so low I need to talk to somebody. I am using another name I hope it is alright.

I have depression. I do not know what to do. I have fallen out with my best friend who has been by my side through it all for so long. I feel like I have lost the most important thing in my life. I am heartbroken. I have contacted my friend but she will not reply. It was a simple misunderstanding something silly but she has given up on me.

I do not know where to turn, what I can do now. I feel I cannot carry on, it hurts so much because she is ignoring me. A big part of my life is missing and I hurt so much.

Hi Pills

I can understand how ya feelin, i am going thru a similair thing myself, but as gemini says im not gonna high jack

Firstly have you tried really tlking to your friend? and seeing where things went wrong, or what she said to make you fall out friends with her? i agree wit bmf on this true friends will stay with ya hun, not matter what, thru think and thin, i know my true friends are the ones that stick with me even when im at my worst and very unwell, there the ones that know ya unwell and know what to say. I would say talk to her, but give it time as well.

take care x

geminilady

rose07 wrote: »

Hi Pills

I can understand how ya feelin, i am going thru a similair thing myself, but as gemini says im not gonna high jack

Firstly have you tried really tlking to your friend? and seeing where things went wrong, or what she said to make you fall out friends with her? i agree wit bmf on this true friends will stay with ya hun, not matter what, thru think and thin, i know my true friends are the ones that stick with me even when im at my worst and very unwell, there the ones that know ya unwell and know what to say. I would say talk to her, but give it time as well.

take care x

Hi Rose:wave: I think Pills main problem is she cannot talk to her friend,she is completely ignoring her that is what is so frustrating how can you attempt to put things right if someone won't let you?

rose07

geminilady wrote: »

Hi Rose:wave: I think Pills main problem is she cannot talk to her friend,she is completely ignoring her that is what is so frustrating how can you attempt to put things right if someone won't let you?

hi gl

the answer is you cant. some people can be right stubborn things to the point they think there in the right and dont see things from your pov. they dont see past things to fix things. sometimes if someone gives ya soo much agro they just not worth it hun. If she is totally blocking you out, then at least you have tried give it a few weeks, it may blow over or you may need to talk to her again.

nice ta see ya x