Is this guy playing mind games?

System

lantanna wrote: »

Doesn't seem though that there is much point to this - what are you getting out of it? If he doesn't want to meet what is the point??

Makes perfect sense

[Deleted User]

Did you meet him on a chatsite (or dating site) if your using a well known app that you can tell whether hes online I can guarantee hes chatting to other women. I had this and the same thing happened to me. I just stopped messaging and moved on. If he liked you we would have progressed a lot quicker than still texting random ok's or lol's after a few months. Oh and I did eventually met the guy that done this to me. And by the time I did I was bored anyway and only met him out of curiosity. Then he started messaging me... shame he didn't do it a lot sooner. As I said I got bored, deleted his number and moved on.

System

if your using a well known app that you can tell whether hes online I can guarantee hes chatting to other women

If your on about Whatsapp the new privacy settings that have come in force mean that you can block anyone who isn't in your phonebook/contact list from seeing your profile picture, status or see when you were last online..

I played with the new settings on Friday evening. Only the people in my phonebook/contact list can now see my profile picture, status or when I was last online.

[Deleted User]

On the contrary - men are not confusing, they are really straight-forward. It is we females who read all kinds of things into what they say or don't say that convince us they are confusing.

If a man likes you and wants to chat to you, get to know you, spend time with you then he will. If he isn't making the effort to do those things then he's not really interested.

Time to move on

SailorSam

Where did he come from in the first place ?
How come he's got your number, or you his ?

fivetide

Judi wrote: »

If that's the case why does he message her first?

Because it makes him feel good to have someone hanging on him even if he doesn't want to go further.

Forget the ego and move on.

System

Because it makes him feel good to have someone hanging on him even if he doesn't want to go further.

Maybe he just wants friendship :-). A severely stunted friendship it maybe but maybe he's shy.

fivetide

Judi wrote: »

Maybe he just wants friendship :-). A severely stunted friendship it maybe but maybe he's shy.

Given the OP has spoken with him on the phone and asked him about meeting etc it is clear that if he is shy she's done everything she can to help.

For my mind, he's not interested in proper relationship really and the OP should move on to new pastures.

Others have suggested he's got a number on the go or might be married. I thought I was being a bit more polite about it!