Is this guy playing mind games?

specialkiss

Hi there
So I have been texting a guy for months the only problem I have with him is that he always sends me a message first, example: Hi how are you
then I will say fine and yourself. He will respond im ok thanks. Then thats it. I will always follow that up by starting a conversation but then his replies are just one word responses like 'ok'. I could send a paragraph of how my day is going and he be like 'ok' lol. Oh but the only time he replies back with more than one word is when I ask him questions. If I ask him if hes got questions to ask me he says no. I have deleted this guy off my phone cause I am sick of trying with him but ive kept his number in my notepad just incase im being a bit immature and maybe someone will tell me to give it another try.

so any advice people?

PeacefulWaters

May be he struggles to type on a phone.

May be he struggles to converse by text. I do.

May be he's dull.

If you're interested, ask him out. If you're not, throw the piece of paper away.

Get it in the real world though.

FBaby

Quite common with some men who either struggle to express themselves with texts, or all together. Have you ever suggested that you go on to emails? How long has it been going on and what do you expect from it?

specialkiss

Thanks for the reply.

I was too thinking the same thing but this is a guy who sits on his phone all day texting people so im pretty sure im not the only one he talks to and I doubt hes shy or that he struggles. But who knows, maybe he does struggle.

I have been down that road and asked him to meet but hes not interested in meeting anyone.

Which is confusing considering I met the guy in a chat room.

specialkiss

Oh and I might get asked how I know he texts all day. Lets just say we text each other via a social network app that tells me when he was last online. Not that im stalking but whenever the conversation would die I would go to message him to text something and bam i know whether hes still in the app texting other people or whether he left the app ar the time he left the conversation.

nonnatus

Why don't you use the phone to TALK to him instead of text - that way you'll know exactly how he behaves in a conversation....?

laurel7172

He's just not that into you, I'm afraid.

Assuming he even is who he says he is...

Delete the notepad file.

MrsDrink

Months of texting? You haven't met in real life. Have you spoken to each other on the phone? I'd stop wasting my time and move onto the next.

specialkiss

nonnatus wrote: »

Why don't you use the phone to TALK to him instead of text - that way you'll know exactly how he behaves in a conversation....?

We have briefly spoken a few times and he is talkative, not chatty chatty but there is no awkward silence that you get when your talking to someone who is shy or quiet.

specialkiss

laurel7172 wrote: »

He's just not that into you, I'm afraid.

Assuming he even is who he says he is...

Delete the notepad file.

Yeah I have heard that many times, but wouldn't he delete my number if he wasn't interested at all. Why keep my number and still be communicating with me? Men are confusing. If I wasn't interested in someone I would delete their number and move on. Not keep them in my phone book and start conversations with them.

specialkiss

MrsDrink wrote: »

Months of texting? You haven't met in real life. Have you spoken to each other on the phone? I'd stop wasting my time and move onto the next.

I think I might just do that ha ha!