Marriage Concerns

Buzzybee90

FBaby wrote: »

I don't agree, as a matter of fact, I think it takes longer as you get older. My partner and I waited 5 years, 3 after we moved in. I can definitely say that I have learnt to know my partner most months after we moved in together. Initially, all was lovey dovey. Even after we moved it, it was all excitment. It's when we settled in our lives, that the kids started to get on my partner's nerve, that I started finding his OCD not so great after all (to start with, what a treat to be with someone who was tidy), it's when my partner really notice how worse off he was financially that our relationship was really tested.

Of course, not everyone is the same, but I think that 6 months living together when there are children from another relationship involved is not at all a long time to be sure it is forever. The fact that they want a big wedding despite the fact they are debts involved doesn't seem bring much confidence in why they want to get married now.

Yes the children do change things a little, but we don't know how old they are. A lot of people want a big wedding but don't have the funds - sad fact of today!