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What do you think he'll get.........
lisa76
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My ex-husband has got a bit of a hair brained idea, and i'd like to bring him down to earth with some facts and figures
He is thinking of giving up his job (approx £1700 per month, outgoings £1300p/m) and moving into his aunties to be a carer.
His one auntie is nearly 60 and has downs syndrome. She is declining and is currently looked after by his other 70 year old auntie. His auntie is struggling but won't get a proper carer. He is thinking of moving in with her (either selling his house or renting it out) to be the carer and assist.
He seems to think he'll get loads of money a month, but i think he'd only get carers allowance (48ish a week). Surely he wouldn't get income support etc if he's able to work???? I'm not clear on the benefits system, so if anyone can tell me what he could get i'd be grateful.
He is thinking of giving up his job (approx £1700 per month, outgoings £1300p/m) and moving into his aunties to be a carer.
His one auntie is nearly 60 and has downs syndrome. She is declining and is currently looked after by his other 70 year old auntie. His auntie is struggling but won't get a proper carer. He is thinking of moving in with her (either selling his house or renting it out) to be the carer and assist.
He seems to think he'll get loads of money a month, but i think he'd only get carers allowance (48ish a week). Surely he wouldn't get income support etc if he's able to work???? I'm not clear on the benefits system, so if anyone can tell me what he could get i'd be grateful.
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Thanks for your productive response Tom!
Don't get me wrong the motive behind this is not the caring side of things (in which case i would be behind him) - it's to help himself financially.
He is not strong enough emotionally to cope with seeing his auntie deteriorate and i know this from personal experience.0 -
you should move on, after all he is your EX.
If there are kids involved and he wants to get out of paying maintenance then fair enough, otherwise MOVE on.
Cheers.nothing.0 -
I too think he will only get carers' allowance.
His auntie however may be able to get DLA/Attendance Allowance, Council Tax/Housing Benefit and State Pension/Pension Credit. She may already be getting some of these.
I too think it is a hare-brained scheme if he is ONLY doing it for the finances.
Is he hoping that some of his aunt's allowances may come his way, so to speak?(AKA HRH_MUngo)
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why dont you move on, maybe to another forum ?Tom_Saunders wrote: »you should move on, after all he is your EX.
If there are kids involved and he wants to get out of paying maintenance then fair enough, otherwise MOVE on.
Cheers.
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I wonder if lisa's ex would be sanctioned for giving up his job or would it be a special case cause he is doing it to care for someone ?0
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Tom_Saunders wrote: »you should move on, after all he is your EX.
If there are kids involved and he wants to get out of paying maintenance then fair enough, otherwise MOVE on.
Cheers.
There are children involved - a 10 year old from a previous relationship that he has 3 nights a week and would be unable to have as the house is too small and our daughter that he would also not be able to have at the house as she is far too noisy and his auntie needs peace and quiet.
He would be unable to pay maintenance to me, but that is not the issue as i am quite capable of providing for my daughter on my own.0 -
seven-day-weekend wrote: »I too think he will only get carers' allowance.
His auntie however may be able to get DLA/Attendance Allowance, Council Tax/Housing Benefit and State Pension/Pension Credit. She may already be getting some of these.
I too think it is a hare-brained scheme if he is ONLY doing it for the finances.
Is he hoping that some of his aunt's allowances may come his way, so to speak?
I would imagine his auntie gets what she's entitled to, and i think he thinks he would get a percentage of this allowance - but i do not think she would be able to cope without any income.0 -
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I would imagine his auntie gets what she's entitled to, and i think he thinks he would get a percentage of this allowance - but i do not think she would be able to cope without any income.
Any benefits/allowances that his auntie gets would be hers, not his.
Please forgive me for saying so, but it really seems to me as though he may be intending to take advantage of your auntie as she has Downs Syndrome and try to get her money off her. Otherwise why would he be thinking he will get 'loads' of money?
I apologise wholeheartedly if I am wrong.(AKA HRH_MUngo)
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